Do you want to avoid high stress, friction and high drama during your wedding planning? If not there are some key things you'll need to get under control right from the beginning.
Take the lead yourself over the whole of the wedding planning.
This way you can avoid chaos and confusion that can happen with too many views and different approaches which can lead to friction.
It just seems to happen when a lot of people get together to plan a large event, that personalities clash and delays can then occur.
It is not deliberate, it may happen because of different perspectives of what makes up a wedding and a great day.
A Wedding is about two people getting married.
However, let's not forget it is also about two families getting together too.
So wedding planning is essential to ensure you are fully organised and have decided who are the best people from both families to involve in all the tasks.
The key thing is to grab control and hold onto it because when you are working with two sets of relatives, you will need to set some ground rules so everyone gets along and works together.
If you can, pick someone you trust to be your second-in-command, maybe a close friend, or sometimes having one from each set of families can work too.
Just ensure they can work with everyone and that they are clear on what you want to achieve from all their hard work.
Be clear on the tasks you delegate, to talk through the wedding planning and agree with your second(s) what needs to be done and who you think would be a good person to accomplish it.
Ask their opinion and reach an agreement on the names.
Maintain overall control over what needs to be done, delegate as required and be clear on who is doing what and by when.
Remember this role is diplomatic as you want everyone to pull their weight.
Be clear to everyone involved that you want them to work together to help you and your husband to be, achieve the day of your dreams.
If you follow these ideas, your wedding planning will go smoothly and you will have a wonderful day.