How many times have you heard this? “I know my soul mate is out there” or “I’ll know him/her when I find him/her” or “There is one person perfectly suited for me…I just know its!”
You’ve probably heard that a lot. The problem is that your “soul mate” is really someone you make! Well, you don’t “make” them but in a relationship you must work to “make” your soul mate.
Much of this work is done (or should be) BEFORE you commit, not after.
Using the Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator (MBTI) is the core “work” I referred to above. The knowledge of personality type you can gain form the MBTI will help you after you commit to a person…it just may be harder depending upon the personality types involved.
The definition of soul mate has become so varied in our culture that it can be difficult to pin it down. If you use a dictionary, in this case the Encarta Dictionary of the English Language (easy to do because it is on the internet) you’ll find the following definition of “soul mate”: somebody with whom somebody else naturally shares deep feelings and attitudes.
Ok, by that definition naturally sharing feelings and attitudes describes a soul mate.
By using the MBTI you can identify pre-existing instinctive preferences for “feelings” and “attitudes” as you define each of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types.
The data is overwhelming, if you find someone who shares certain personality preferences with you then your chances of falling in love easier, getting along better, having a more “natural” “soul-mate” relationship are much higher than being with someone who does not share certain preferences.
What are these preferences? Well in the MBTI lingo, if you will, sharing the “dominant” function is the key. The dominant function will be that psychological function you instinctively give the highest amount of conscious, most you, psychic energy to. I mean to say you do not even know you are doing this and yet you are.
The dominant function will also explain how you literally speak your native tongue to almost everyone! In this brief article I will not go over all the details, just take the MBTI and identify a MBTI certified professional who can tell you what you “dominant” function is and that will be more than half the battle in finding you soul mate.
Clinically, you have four (4) core psychological functions, and they will be used in a “rank” order depending upon how you instinctively allocate your conscious energy. Your core functions are Sensing and Intuition which explain how you naturally take in information, and Thinking and Feeling which explain how you naturally reason to a decision based upon the information you became aware of thru Sensing and Intuition. Again, refer to a basic description of the MBTI for more details on the four functions above.
The more alike you are with another, the easier, more natural, more instinctive, more “soul-mate-like” your relationships are likely to be.
A quick example might go like this based upon MBTI typing: An ISTJ is in love with an INFJ; ok well that can work but it may not have a soul-mate like quality to it. Well, not at first anyway. You see these two people are completely opposite at their instinctive core. So, after the attraction wears off these two folks literally see everything the opposite way and make decisions completely opposite!
However, if these two people understood the naturalness of their MBTI differences they can work (and it is not that hard) to let the other person’s differences be; and to even give the other person a bit of what the other person needs and great “soul-mate” qualities will grow and develop.
I’ll close this article by saying that you will find more folks “hooking” up today with an “opposite” type (at least at the core) than you will find hooking up with the same core type. Could this be one reason for the absurdly high divorce rate in America? (gee ya think?!!) Of course it is….but that may be a topic for another article somewhere down the line.
Use the MBTI as your “soul-mate” radar and you will be safer than listening to what our culture; the movies, children’s stories and the like may indoctrinate you to believe.
And remember, knowledge of type is a Solid as The Rock!
You’ve probably heard that a lot. The problem is that your “soul mate” is really someone you make! Well, you don’t “make” them but in a relationship you must work to “make” your soul mate.
Much of this work is done (or should be) BEFORE you commit, not after.
Using the Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator (MBTI) is the core “work” I referred to above. The knowledge of personality type you can gain form the MBTI will help you after you commit to a person…it just may be harder depending upon the personality types involved.
The definition of soul mate has become so varied in our culture that it can be difficult to pin it down. If you use a dictionary, in this case the Encarta Dictionary of the English Language (easy to do because it is on the internet) you’ll find the following definition of “soul mate”: somebody with whom somebody else naturally shares deep feelings and attitudes.
Ok, by that definition naturally sharing feelings and attitudes describes a soul mate.
By using the MBTI you can identify pre-existing instinctive preferences for “feelings” and “attitudes” as you define each of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types.
The data is overwhelming, if you find someone who shares certain personality preferences with you then your chances of falling in love easier, getting along better, having a more “natural” “soul-mate” relationship are much higher than being with someone who does not share certain preferences.
What are these preferences? Well in the MBTI lingo, if you will, sharing the “dominant” function is the key. The dominant function will be that psychological function you instinctively give the highest amount of conscious, most you, psychic energy to. I mean to say you do not even know you are doing this and yet you are.
The dominant function will also explain how you literally speak your native tongue to almost everyone! In this brief article I will not go over all the details, just take the MBTI and identify a MBTI certified professional who can tell you what you “dominant” function is and that will be more than half the battle in finding you soul mate.
Clinically, you have four (4) core psychological functions, and they will be used in a “rank” order depending upon how you instinctively allocate your conscious energy. Your core functions are Sensing and Intuition which explain how you naturally take in information, and Thinking and Feeling which explain how you naturally reason to a decision based upon the information you became aware of thru Sensing and Intuition. Again, refer to a basic description of the MBTI for more details on the four functions above.
The more alike you are with another, the easier, more natural, more instinctive, more “soul-mate-like” your relationships are likely to be.
A quick example might go like this based upon MBTI typing: An ISTJ is in love with an INFJ; ok well that can work but it may not have a soul-mate like quality to it. Well, not at first anyway. You see these two people are completely opposite at their instinctive core. So, after the attraction wears off these two folks literally see everything the opposite way and make decisions completely opposite!
However, if these two people understood the naturalness of their MBTI differences they can work (and it is not that hard) to let the other person’s differences be; and to even give the other person a bit of what the other person needs and great “soul-mate” qualities will grow and develop.
I’ll close this article by saying that you will find more folks “hooking” up today with an “opposite” type (at least at the core) than you will find hooking up with the same core type. Could this be one reason for the absurdly high divorce rate in America? (gee ya think?!!) Of course it is….but that may be a topic for another article somewhere down the line.
Use the MBTI as your “soul-mate” radar and you will be safer than listening to what our culture; the movies, children’s stories and the like may indoctrinate you to believe.
And remember, knowledge of type is a Solid as The Rock!