Sometimes friendships last a lifetime, others last a very short amount of time.
Then there are friends who you are certain are going to be around for the long haul, but they disappear when you need them most.
Things change suddenly and what seemed permanent becomes nothing more than a broken ship in the storm.
How did the friendship end? The friend relationship may slowly end as you physically move apart.
Life changes, such as jobs, responsibilities or different life stages may make emotional moves, that make more and more differences between you.
Then there are times when friends seem to suddenly end without a seeming reason and you are left to pick up the pieces.
Is there a reason? If a friendship ends prematurely it is a good time to reflect on the reasons or possible reasons why.
Reflect back to see if there is something you may have done to trigger the end.
Maybe you always asked for help and never gave it return.
Perhaps you are late more often than not, or otherwise disrespecting their feelings.
Can you change it? Perhaps you can make changes, to be the friend you should be and mend the friendship.
You can start being on time, respecting your friends and giving not just taking.
A friendship is a delicate balance of being yourself and meeting someone on a middle ground.
They in turn must meet you on the middle ground as well, but if they refuse to meet you then it causes problems as well.
Are you always giving? Then there are friendships that you may give and give to, and when you ask for help the friend disappears.
So when you need help they are afraid the free ride is over so rather than help you they disappear or pick a fight so you will be mad and they do not have to help.
Does your success frighten your friends? Other friends will cause problems when they see you succeeding or pushing for a greater future.
This change may result in you ending the friendship so they will cause problems to keep you where you are.
In either case unfortunately what you thought was a friendship was actually not.
What can you do? If you know you are not being the friend you should, step up and be a better friend.
Should your friends not want to help you when you need help or encourage your success then they are not really your friends.
When you ask for help from the friends who take your friendship will probably end without you saying much.
If your friends block your success you must walk away or confront them.
Your friends deserve your respect and you deserve theirs.
This is the beauty of friendship.
Then there are friends who you are certain are going to be around for the long haul, but they disappear when you need them most.
Things change suddenly and what seemed permanent becomes nothing more than a broken ship in the storm.
How did the friendship end? The friend relationship may slowly end as you physically move apart.
Life changes, such as jobs, responsibilities or different life stages may make emotional moves, that make more and more differences between you.
Then there are times when friends seem to suddenly end without a seeming reason and you are left to pick up the pieces.
Is there a reason? If a friendship ends prematurely it is a good time to reflect on the reasons or possible reasons why.
Reflect back to see if there is something you may have done to trigger the end.
Maybe you always asked for help and never gave it return.
Perhaps you are late more often than not, or otherwise disrespecting their feelings.
Can you change it? Perhaps you can make changes, to be the friend you should be and mend the friendship.
You can start being on time, respecting your friends and giving not just taking.
A friendship is a delicate balance of being yourself and meeting someone on a middle ground.
They in turn must meet you on the middle ground as well, but if they refuse to meet you then it causes problems as well.
Are you always giving? Then there are friendships that you may give and give to, and when you ask for help the friend disappears.
So when you need help they are afraid the free ride is over so rather than help you they disappear or pick a fight so you will be mad and they do not have to help.
Does your success frighten your friends? Other friends will cause problems when they see you succeeding or pushing for a greater future.
This change may result in you ending the friendship so they will cause problems to keep you where you are.
In either case unfortunately what you thought was a friendship was actually not.
What can you do? If you know you are not being the friend you should, step up and be a better friend.
Should your friends not want to help you when you need help or encourage your success then they are not really your friends.
When you ask for help from the friends who take your friendship will probably end without you saying much.
If your friends block your success you must walk away or confront them.
Your friends deserve your respect and you deserve theirs.
This is the beauty of friendship.