The Space Be Tween

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As your child approaches teen age –around 12-13 years old- you'll experience some changes in her. He will probably be out of the house more often and wants to keep his privacy from you. Other times, he may not be listening to you nor doing what you ask her. Many parents in the world find the same troubles when dealing with their teens. Hope you don't get them. But if you do, don't worry! Keep on reading to get solutions. Just like when you were a teenager, you wanted to spend times with your peers rather than with your parents or family, right? Your teen feels the same way, too. Making her own decision is another important thing for her besides privacy. Now, do you think your teen is out of control and never wants to listen to you? Don't give up! Of course you can help yourself deal with your teen. The best way to do it is to always strengthen your relationship with her. But how? Here are the solutions:
  1. Talk with her more – It's better if you start the conversation. It can be just "How was your day, hun?" Try to discuss many things instead of interrogate her. Find interesting topics, such as sport, entertainment, friends, and school experience to make it relaxing.
  2. Listen to her – If she reveals her criticism to you, listen to her and ask what she expects you to do. Talk about this wisely, not emotionally. It's good for her to be able to express the feeling.
  3. Set rules for her – Your teen needs to recognize what is and isn't acceptable and what the consequences of misbehavior are. Therefore you should set, or precisely, negotiate some rules with your teen to keep her on track.
  4. Consider her point of view – Regard your teen as your friend and respect his opinion whenever you discuss something. This also shows that you pay attention to her and consider her as important.
  5. Encourage your teen by doing her interests and talent – Most teens like to try new things. Let yours choose what she desires, though you don't agree with it because, for example, it can endanger her. Giving her support is the best you can do, while you keep monitoring that the new activity is safe for her. Moreover, this idea is a good way of teaching your teen on how to be responsible with things she does.
  6. Do things together – This one is surely a great opportunity for you to improve your relationship with your teen. Why? ‘Cause you probably haven't had much time to spend with her. Arrange agenda for the whole month. In each week, make an interesting plan for you and her and get the pleasant results at the end of it.

Still about the last point above, think of exciting activities you both can do together. For example, in the first week, play video games together on Saturday, while on the next day both of you can go bowling or swimming at the beach. Later, in the following weeks, set up enjoyable weekends by doing these: having breakfast at a popular coffee shop which makes your teen's favorite food and beverage, going fishing, going to the movie, camping, or visiting a college where your teen looks forward to join in the future. Conclusively, warm and positive communication without underestimating your teen is a key to successful relationship between the two of you. Clearly it won't work at once. Try the tips progressively and enjoy your time being a parent of a teenager.
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