EXPECTATIONS AND DREAMS ARTICLE # 3. October 22, 2013
ENTHUSIASTIC ATHLETIC IDEA REQUIRING AN OPTIMISTIC RESPONSE.
A mindset of "Out of Pure Joy" in tandem with supporting a desire of a young child to become an active participant in Athletics can be a welcome option to many parents and a total surprise to others. Those include all the varieties of activity options in between. It's all part of parents having children. It creates the same situation for parents as is with children who are expected or not, become interested in after school activities. Like in: 1. I don't know what to do and how to respond. 2. I can do it. 3. I would like to explore where my limits are. Again, that sudden scenario can surely shake up assumptions about parenthood. I know for a fact that feelings of inadequacy, being challenged & sacrificing of self are also part of the joys of parenthood. Spending time and efforts for self improving, slowly gravitates to sacrificing time and energy for children. All for the sake of the child. Introducing children to athletics, sports, dance for pure self interest of the parent will not work. It is not a desirable start at the beginning of that journey. Pushing a child to assure recognition other than the child's, will self destruct. That attitude invokes problems of magnitude for all involved.
It is, in my opinion, perfectly normal for a child not being able to settle in on one or more activities seriously. Be committed from the get go. Changing it's mind after some serious investments in time and equipment have been made, can be disappointing and expensive. However, it's all part of the game.
Where to start to prevent disappointments for all involved? First of all, sit down and listen. Observe the physical, mental & emotional attributes and talents that appear to be present. Or show up infrequently by surprise. Also, check the 3skatter site. That's where you can get some solid basic information as to prepare a child in athletics. Not every child is a self starter or has an inquisitive mind. Motivate the child to explore the facilities and opportunities introduced by friends. Encourage to follow up on desire and talent. When the right moment shows, say: "Check it out girl/boy". Talent is not an end product you can rely on for success. It's a process. Encourage it to shop around. Suggest to talk to friends. Introduce ideas. Motivate with positive introductions. Come up with ideas. Above all, encourage some form of a Youth Fitness Program. Becoming fit and maintain it, is an essential part of growing up. Self motivated or not, enthusiastically assist with motivating. Never criticize. That other option, doing nothing, is not a viable option. Being fit improves self confidence in many other facets of growing up. The time to guide the child becomes harder during the teen age years. Generally, an adolescent does not like to be told what to do. A good strategy is to hold the line of reasoning. That sets us apart from animals. They initiate action on impulse and instinct only. On that note, expect the unexpected. The following story is not an isolated example:.
"One sunny afternoon, 10 year old Christine came home from school jubilantly & very excited. "Hi Mom", while dancing into the kitchen. It stunned Mom Mildred and stopped her in her tracks. Christine has always behaved as a very calm & collected girl, Mom Mildred looked at Christine, purposely not acting surprised at all and replied with a generic question: "How was school today?" Christine responded: Me and my friend Josie met up with Mr. K, our Phys Ed teacher. He's so cool. He coaches a girls soccer team. Now Mildred allowed herself to momentarily stare with surprise at her daughter. Just about when Christine was to continue, Dad Karl and little brother Jimmy come in. Everybody gathered around in the kitchen, chomping on Mom's favorite chocolate chip cookies. Christine jumped on the opportunity to continue her soccer story. Mom, Dad, I want to join the Orange Kickers girls soccer team. Josie plays for them too. Pet dog Racko instantly opened his eyes, made a surprising sound, instinctively joining in on the fun and wagged it's tail. Then total silence of a few seconds that seemed like minutes. Mom and Dad replied in concert: Christine, you have never been interested in athletics before. Jimmy was ready to shoot off another of one of his often sarcastic remarks towards Christine. Mildred anticipating it, jumped in his face and stopped him before things would get out of hand. Mildred looked at Karl to show leadership in the soccer matter. He did not miss a beat, stepped up to the plate. Made a pumping motion with his right arm and kicked up his left knee up in sync. Turning from Christine to Mildred he exclaimed in excitement: Honey this calls for immediate turbo response. Let's go and meet Mr. K. He must be a knock out coach and kick in the grass, Christine says he is. Are you coming Jimmy? He instantly replied; "Are you kidding me, that would be even moreâEUR¦âEUR¦.". Mildred rushed over to Jimmy & as so many times before, positioned herself between Christine and him and saved the moment. Christine ended up joining the Orange Kickers girls soccer team. Mom & Dad became loyal supporters & made new friends in the process.
IMPACT ELEMENTS:
* Visit http://www.3skatter-pe.com for recommended basics & information.
* Never doubt the potential of a child.
* The attribute of Talent is not an end of the road "thing" to be cherished.
It's a Process to perfect ones abilities with hard work, dedication & commitment.
* Prepare and be prepared to respond to requests that initially seem unreasonable.
* Prevent the child to shut the door on a proposal. Instead 'bounce off' ideas to start
And/or maintain athletic activity.
* The one shut door instantly opens others. They might not be desirable options.
* Never push a child into an athletic activity out of self interest, -recognition & -
exposure.
* Expect a good dose of challenges & sacrifices to be blessings of parenthood.
* Criticizing, judging, or ridicule will, potentially, create explosive reactions.
* Responding, instead of instant reacting, allows for understanding.
Henri Charles (Hans) Schmid
ENTHUSIASTIC ATHLETIC IDEA REQUIRING AN OPTIMISTIC RESPONSE.
A mindset of "Out of Pure Joy" in tandem with supporting a desire of a young child to become an active participant in Athletics can be a welcome option to many parents and a total surprise to others. Those include all the varieties of activity options in between. It's all part of parents having children. It creates the same situation for parents as is with children who are expected or not, become interested in after school activities. Like in: 1. I don't know what to do and how to respond. 2. I can do it. 3. I would like to explore where my limits are. Again, that sudden scenario can surely shake up assumptions about parenthood. I know for a fact that feelings of inadequacy, being challenged & sacrificing of self are also part of the joys of parenthood. Spending time and efforts for self improving, slowly gravitates to sacrificing time and energy for children. All for the sake of the child. Introducing children to athletics, sports, dance for pure self interest of the parent will not work. It is not a desirable start at the beginning of that journey. Pushing a child to assure recognition other than the child's, will self destruct. That attitude invokes problems of magnitude for all involved.
It is, in my opinion, perfectly normal for a child not being able to settle in on one or more activities seriously. Be committed from the get go. Changing it's mind after some serious investments in time and equipment have been made, can be disappointing and expensive. However, it's all part of the game.
Where to start to prevent disappointments for all involved? First of all, sit down and listen. Observe the physical, mental & emotional attributes and talents that appear to be present. Or show up infrequently by surprise. Also, check the 3skatter site. That's where you can get some solid basic information as to prepare a child in athletics. Not every child is a self starter or has an inquisitive mind. Motivate the child to explore the facilities and opportunities introduced by friends. Encourage to follow up on desire and talent. When the right moment shows, say: "Check it out girl/boy". Talent is not an end product you can rely on for success. It's a process. Encourage it to shop around. Suggest to talk to friends. Introduce ideas. Motivate with positive introductions. Come up with ideas. Above all, encourage some form of a Youth Fitness Program. Becoming fit and maintain it, is an essential part of growing up. Self motivated or not, enthusiastically assist with motivating. Never criticize. That other option, doing nothing, is not a viable option. Being fit improves self confidence in many other facets of growing up. The time to guide the child becomes harder during the teen age years. Generally, an adolescent does not like to be told what to do. A good strategy is to hold the line of reasoning. That sets us apart from animals. They initiate action on impulse and instinct only. On that note, expect the unexpected. The following story is not an isolated example:.
"One sunny afternoon, 10 year old Christine came home from school jubilantly & very excited. "Hi Mom", while dancing into the kitchen. It stunned Mom Mildred and stopped her in her tracks. Christine has always behaved as a very calm & collected girl, Mom Mildred looked at Christine, purposely not acting surprised at all and replied with a generic question: "How was school today?" Christine responded: Me and my friend Josie met up with Mr. K, our Phys Ed teacher. He's so cool. He coaches a girls soccer team. Now Mildred allowed herself to momentarily stare with surprise at her daughter. Just about when Christine was to continue, Dad Karl and little brother Jimmy come in. Everybody gathered around in the kitchen, chomping on Mom's favorite chocolate chip cookies. Christine jumped on the opportunity to continue her soccer story. Mom, Dad, I want to join the Orange Kickers girls soccer team. Josie plays for them too. Pet dog Racko instantly opened his eyes, made a surprising sound, instinctively joining in on the fun and wagged it's tail. Then total silence of a few seconds that seemed like minutes. Mom and Dad replied in concert: Christine, you have never been interested in athletics before. Jimmy was ready to shoot off another of one of his often sarcastic remarks towards Christine. Mildred anticipating it, jumped in his face and stopped him before things would get out of hand. Mildred looked at Karl to show leadership in the soccer matter. He did not miss a beat, stepped up to the plate. Made a pumping motion with his right arm and kicked up his left knee up in sync. Turning from Christine to Mildred he exclaimed in excitement: Honey this calls for immediate turbo response. Let's go and meet Mr. K. He must be a knock out coach and kick in the grass, Christine says he is. Are you coming Jimmy? He instantly replied; "Are you kidding me, that would be even moreâEUR¦âEUR¦.". Mildred rushed over to Jimmy & as so many times before, positioned herself between Christine and him and saved the moment. Christine ended up joining the Orange Kickers girls soccer team. Mom & Dad became loyal supporters & made new friends in the process.
IMPACT ELEMENTS:
* Visit http://www.3skatter-pe.com for recommended basics & information.
* Never doubt the potential of a child.
* The attribute of Talent is not an end of the road "thing" to be cherished.
It's a Process to perfect ones abilities with hard work, dedication & commitment.
* Prepare and be prepared to respond to requests that initially seem unreasonable.
* Prevent the child to shut the door on a proposal. Instead 'bounce off' ideas to start
And/or maintain athletic activity.
* The one shut door instantly opens others. They might not be desirable options.
* Never push a child into an athletic activity out of self interest, -recognition & -
exposure.
* Expect a good dose of challenges & sacrifices to be blessings of parenthood.
* Criticizing, judging, or ridicule will, potentially, create explosive reactions.
* Responding, instead of instant reacting, allows for understanding.
Henri Charles (Hans) Schmid