- 1). Firstly and most importantly, you must be happy with yourself and have a ton of self-confidence. If you do not have a ton of self-confidence, check out my article on how to get self-confidence. The reason this is important is because you need to not be basing your entire existence on whether or not this person likes you or not. This actually helps to attract the person. How many times have you heard someone say that people want what they can't have. This does not mean you need to play games to act hard to get - games are a no-no! By being self-confident, you will have a high self-worth and that will make you seem more attractive.
- 2). Do not rely on the other person for your happiness. You just become clingy and scare the person away. I believe this is one of the biggest mistakes I made in the failed friendship. Having hobbies is extremely helpful at this point. Find things that you like to do and get busy with them. If you are not waiting for that special someone because you are too busy with your own hobbies or studies at school, then you will seem more unavailable without playing hard to get. Not to mention people with interests . . . are interesting.
- 3). On the topic of interests, it is a good idea to try out the other person's interests. Take interest but do not fake interest. If you are honestly not interested in their hobby, don't pretend that you are. Just find out what other things they may be interested in and take interest in those. Some may say that if you have no common interests, that you shouldn't be interested in them in the first place. I do not believe this at all. I had less in common with my husband when I met him than with the failed friendship and look how that turned out. Plus, usually there will be at least one thing that you don't mind doing that they enjoy. For example, a couple of the first times my husband and I spent time together, just the two of us, it was playing video games. Showing interest in their interests shows your interest in them and gives the opportunity for some one-on-one time. However, and this is important, do not forget step two. You can not spend ALL your time doing what they want to try to get their interest. Which leads us to Step 4.
- 4). Spend time with other friends. If you do not have friends, make them. Sounds so easy doesn't it? If you need help in this area, check out my article on how to make more friends. The reason this step is important is the same reason step 2 is important. You do not want to seem clingy but you do want to seem interesting to other people. A good example is with kids. How many times have you seen a kid reject a toy just to turn around and want it more than anything once someone else has it. Be busy. Be busy with friends and hobbies and if your friend has not shown any interest and someone else that you could maybe like asks you out, give them a chance. You may find out you like that person more or you may not want to go out with them again but have now gotten your friend's attention. However, DO NOT date ANYONE just to make someone jealous - it usually does not work and just hurts people, turning you into someone no one wants.
- 5). Lastly, after a little bit of time, just be honest with the person. Let them know how you feel and see what they think. If they say no, don't push it, go about your life and even look at maybe dating other people. I am not saying give up but don't focus on it. They may come around or who knows, you could find someone better - like I did. :)
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