We've had a number of questions recently from our readers who specifically asked about Facebook.
We thought this was an interesting topic that should be addressed in a Q&A format.
1.
I met a nice guy through a Christian online dating site and we have been out for coffee twice.
He just friended me on Facebook.
What should I do? Our advice is to not accept a friend request on Facebook from someone with whom you have been on two coffee dates.
You are still getting to know each other.
Take your time in doing so, and respect each other's privacy in the process.
To become Facebook friends so early on in a dating encounter is to presume a familiarity that is not there.
Hey, this guy may become your husband someday.
That said, allow the relationship to develop on its own first before involving Facebook into the equation.
You might even mention to him your reasons for not accepting his friend request right away.
"I like you, but let's get to know each other better first" is a sentiment that respects both of you.
2.
My girlfriend and I met online last year and have had a great relationship so far.
The problem is, she has a ton of guy "friends" on Facebook and I'm not very thrilled about it.
Advice? We can't really say one way or the other about your girlfriend's Facebook friends given that we don't know all the specifics of the situation.
That said, we would advise you to not be overly jealous.
Facebook friends can be very casual acquaintances who aren't truly "friends" in the real world.
If there are two things that could potentially ruin a new relationship, they are jealousy and possessiveness.
Go with your gut instinct on this one.
Do you trust your girlfriend? If so, give her the benefit of the doubt here.
Her Facebook "friends" are very likely a non-issue.
3.
Is it OK to do a little bit of research on the online dates that you are going to meet? I want to know more about them but I hesitate to Facebook stalk people! We got this question several times from our readers.
The answer is that absolutely it's OK to check out your online date before you meet them.
You might try a Google search and a quick Facebook search to see where they live, where they went to college, etc.
Obviously this is not license to spend hours online researching someone, but a quick search can be useful and helpful.
It will also help verify that the person is who they say they are.
Do a Google search on yourself to see what comes up.
If you are on the internet, are you projecting the kind of image that you want?
We thought this was an interesting topic that should be addressed in a Q&A format.
1.
I met a nice guy through a Christian online dating site and we have been out for coffee twice.
He just friended me on Facebook.
What should I do? Our advice is to not accept a friend request on Facebook from someone with whom you have been on two coffee dates.
You are still getting to know each other.
Take your time in doing so, and respect each other's privacy in the process.
To become Facebook friends so early on in a dating encounter is to presume a familiarity that is not there.
Hey, this guy may become your husband someday.
That said, allow the relationship to develop on its own first before involving Facebook into the equation.
You might even mention to him your reasons for not accepting his friend request right away.
"I like you, but let's get to know each other better first" is a sentiment that respects both of you.
2.
My girlfriend and I met online last year and have had a great relationship so far.
The problem is, she has a ton of guy "friends" on Facebook and I'm not very thrilled about it.
Advice? We can't really say one way or the other about your girlfriend's Facebook friends given that we don't know all the specifics of the situation.
That said, we would advise you to not be overly jealous.
Facebook friends can be very casual acquaintances who aren't truly "friends" in the real world.
If there are two things that could potentially ruin a new relationship, they are jealousy and possessiveness.
Go with your gut instinct on this one.
Do you trust your girlfriend? If so, give her the benefit of the doubt here.
Her Facebook "friends" are very likely a non-issue.
3.
Is it OK to do a little bit of research on the online dates that you are going to meet? I want to know more about them but I hesitate to Facebook stalk people! We got this question several times from our readers.
The answer is that absolutely it's OK to check out your online date before you meet them.
You might try a Google search and a quick Facebook search to see where they live, where they went to college, etc.
Obviously this is not license to spend hours online researching someone, but a quick search can be useful and helpful.
It will also help verify that the person is who they say they are.
Do a Google search on yourself to see what comes up.
If you are on the internet, are you projecting the kind of image that you want?