Length of Time

• If you plan on writing your own wedding vows, it is best to make the vows as concise as possible. Remember, the ceremony is for your friends and family to witness your love, and you'll have a lifetime to share heartfelt words with one another.
  
  

Personalized Vows

• When personalizing your vows, it is endearing to use terms of affection for one another, such as "sweetie" or "honey." However, it's important not to write wedding vows that are extremely personal, as this may make guests uncomfortable.
  
  

Religious Vows

• It is perfectly acceptable to recite wedding vows that are in keeping with your religion. Many denominations have pre-written vows that you can repeat. Simply let your wedding officiant know that you will need him or her to guide you in the vows at the appropriate time in the ceremony.
  
  

Negative Experiences

• It's best not to mention any fights or unfavorable experiences you've overcome with your spouse in the wedding vows. While you may want to include these instances to relay the fact that your relationship is stronger, this will change the mood of the ceremony, and provides too much personal information to the guests.
  
  

Children and Stepchildren

• If you or your spouse has children, it is appropriate to mention them in the wedding vows. You may want to include a sentence that lets your spouse know that you embrace your new family, and will strive to show your husband or wife's children all the love and affection you can.