Why some people always are optimistic but some others are always pessimistic? Whether we are happy depends on the different possessions we have or the psychological sense? According to a psychosocial research, our ability to sense the happiness, to some extent, determines our sense of happiness. Then, how to enhance the ability to sense the happiness? One may begin from the following five aspects.
First, the life should be well-organized. The research has shown that among all the factors influencing the sense of happiness, rigor plays the most important role. Rigor refers to the extent to which the sense of order can arrive at. One should be rational not only in the daily life but also in dealing with others as well as in doing one's work.
Second, one should overcome nervous temperament. Nervous temperament is not equal to mental problem, but refers to the stability of people's mood. The research shows that nervous temperament can greatly affect the sense of happiness. People who suffer from nervous temperament are usually sentimental. The instable mood may also lead to physical changes as it will reduce people's immunity.
Third, one should learn to master the correct way to cope with problems. According to the psychological research, people usually show two kinds of reactions to the problems and pressures: problem tackling and mood tackling. Problem tackling includes to adopt some measures, to make plans, to get emotional support, to explain the problem reasonably and to accept the fact. The mood tackling includes to evade, to blame oneself, to vent emotions, to fancy, to deny and to tolerate. The research has shown that the problem tackling will be much happier. These people can deal with problems with specific programs not the moods.
Fourth, one should learn to meet the demands properly. As has been pointed out by the famous psychologist Abraham Harold Maslow, everybody has some basic needs, including physical needs, need of security, need of sense of belonging and need of love etc. But all of these needs should be met appropriately, not too less, not too much.
The last but not least, one should always bear hope in mind. Although human beings have been researching the role that hope plays for only 50 years, research has shown that those who are bearing high hopes are likely to be much happier. Hope can be divided into two parts, the wishful target and the way approaching the target.
If one can begin from the above five aspects, one may gradually enhance the ability to sense the happiness.Â
First, the life should be well-organized. The research has shown that among all the factors influencing the sense of happiness, rigor plays the most important role. Rigor refers to the extent to which the sense of order can arrive at. One should be rational not only in the daily life but also in dealing with others as well as in doing one's work.
Second, one should overcome nervous temperament. Nervous temperament is not equal to mental problem, but refers to the stability of people's mood. The research shows that nervous temperament can greatly affect the sense of happiness. People who suffer from nervous temperament are usually sentimental. The instable mood may also lead to physical changes as it will reduce people's immunity.
Third, one should learn to master the correct way to cope with problems. According to the psychological research, people usually show two kinds of reactions to the problems and pressures: problem tackling and mood tackling. Problem tackling includes to adopt some measures, to make plans, to get emotional support, to explain the problem reasonably and to accept the fact. The mood tackling includes to evade, to blame oneself, to vent emotions, to fancy, to deny and to tolerate. The research has shown that the problem tackling will be much happier. These people can deal with problems with specific programs not the moods.
Fourth, one should learn to meet the demands properly. As has been pointed out by the famous psychologist Abraham Harold Maslow, everybody has some basic needs, including physical needs, need of security, need of sense of belonging and need of love etc. But all of these needs should be met appropriately, not too less, not too much.
The last but not least, one should always bear hope in mind. Although human beings have been researching the role that hope plays for only 50 years, research has shown that those who are bearing high hopes are likely to be much happier. Hope can be divided into two parts, the wishful target and the way approaching the target.
If one can begin from the above five aspects, one may gradually enhance the ability to sense the happiness.Â