Avoid Sending Your Child On A Guilt Trip Do you continually make comments that send your child on a guilt trip? Parents who strive to make their children feel guilty often succeed.
The end result of making comments to make a child feel guilty often leads the child in the direction of low self-esteem, aggressive behavior, inappropriate social skills and other undesirable behaviors.
Some common comments may include: "I feel embarrassed when you dress that way.
" "I feel bad when you talk to your mom more than me.
" "Other kids can help their parents...
why not you? Instead of making guilt-enhancing comments make to get your child to accomplish a task that you want done, ask or tell your child to complete the task.
It's better to be firm and authoritative then manipulative.
Pick your battles.
If their zipper is down or a strap is undone, mention it to your child.
Otherwise, leave their dress for their friends and school officials to battle with.
Yes, the school (or kids at school) will make sure your child is dressed appropriately.
"You make me feel angry when you do this to me.
" You, as the parent, control your own feelings.
Your child can't make you feel a feeling that you don't want to have.
"What if your Grandmother say you with those kids?" Truth be known, grandma probably did not like the kids you were with either.
If your child's friends are not breaking the law, using foul language, are polite around you and other adults, than Grandma will most likely accept your child's friends.
"Clean your plate, there are starving children in Africa.
" Serve your child smaller portions of food before you make this statement.
If starving children is your passion of concern, set an example for your child by donating food to your local food shelf.
"Everyone in the family goes to college.
You don't want to be the only one not to attend college!" Even though your intentions may be to encourage your child to attend college, this statement usually brings about more stress.
It would be more productive to check out your child's level a fear regarding college (or other areas where your child shows reluctance) then to use a guilt causing statement.
The end result of making comments to make a child feel guilty often leads the child in the direction of low self-esteem, aggressive behavior, inappropriate social skills and other undesirable behaviors.
Some common comments may include: "I feel embarrassed when you dress that way.
" "I feel bad when you talk to your mom more than me.
" "Other kids can help their parents...
why not you? Instead of making guilt-enhancing comments make to get your child to accomplish a task that you want done, ask or tell your child to complete the task.
It's better to be firm and authoritative then manipulative.
Pick your battles.
If their zipper is down or a strap is undone, mention it to your child.
Otherwise, leave their dress for their friends and school officials to battle with.
Yes, the school (or kids at school) will make sure your child is dressed appropriately.
"You make me feel angry when you do this to me.
" You, as the parent, control your own feelings.
Your child can't make you feel a feeling that you don't want to have.
"What if your Grandmother say you with those kids?" Truth be known, grandma probably did not like the kids you were with either.
If your child's friends are not breaking the law, using foul language, are polite around you and other adults, than Grandma will most likely accept your child's friends.
"Clean your plate, there are starving children in Africa.
" Serve your child smaller portions of food before you make this statement.
If starving children is your passion of concern, set an example for your child by donating food to your local food shelf.
"Everyone in the family goes to college.
You don't want to be the only one not to attend college!" Even though your intentions may be to encourage your child to attend college, this statement usually brings about more stress.
It would be more productive to check out your child's level a fear regarding college (or other areas where your child shows reluctance) then to use a guilt causing statement.