Your boyfriend dumped you and you want him back. Even though almost everyone in your life is likely telling you what a mistake it is to try and get him back, you can't let them rule your heart. You love the man, you want the man, so get the man back.
If your boyfriend dumped you, your main goal is going to be to make him regret it. You want him to wake up one day with the realization that he lost the best thing that ever happened to him. You can actually make that happen. You can ensure he feels that just by doing a few simple things, starting today.
Here's what you need to do in step-by-step order to make him regret dumping you:
Apologize. You're probably thinking there's nothing for you to apologize for since your boyfriend was the one who dumped you, right? Wrong. You need to have a clean slate in place before you can expect him to come back to you, so swallow your pride and tell him you're sorry for whatever you did that caused the relationship to change. Be direct and clear about your apology. No gifts or love notes. A simple "I'm sorry" is the best way to go.
Agree. Again, this is going to feel emotionally like it's the wrong thing to do but there's a reason behind it. Agree with your ex that a break up is warranted. Tell him that you've had time to think things through and you see that breaking up really was the best thing. If you can get through that statement without shedding a tear and with a smile on your face, that's even better.
Absence. Once you've gotten through the apology and you've agreed that a break is a good thing, make yourself invisible to him. Your main goal right now is to avoid him at all costs. Stay away from the places he frequents, delete his cell number from your phone and take a different route to work if you normally pass by his place. Just remove yourself from his world entirely for a few weeks. I can't stress how important it is that you don't talk to him during this time at all. Nothing. Not even a random text message to see how he is.
When you take these three steps, you're sending your ex a message that suggests that you've happily moved forward and are okay with things. When he realizes that you really don't want him anymore, he'll wonder if letting you go is really the best thing for him. Keep your cool, and look at the big picture. If you can do that, you'll stand the best chance of getting him back.
If your boyfriend dumped you, your main goal is going to be to make him regret it. You want him to wake up one day with the realization that he lost the best thing that ever happened to him. You can actually make that happen. You can ensure he feels that just by doing a few simple things, starting today.
Here's what you need to do in step-by-step order to make him regret dumping you:
Apologize. You're probably thinking there's nothing for you to apologize for since your boyfriend was the one who dumped you, right? Wrong. You need to have a clean slate in place before you can expect him to come back to you, so swallow your pride and tell him you're sorry for whatever you did that caused the relationship to change. Be direct and clear about your apology. No gifts or love notes. A simple "I'm sorry" is the best way to go.
Agree. Again, this is going to feel emotionally like it's the wrong thing to do but there's a reason behind it. Agree with your ex that a break up is warranted. Tell him that you've had time to think things through and you see that breaking up really was the best thing. If you can get through that statement without shedding a tear and with a smile on your face, that's even better.
Absence. Once you've gotten through the apology and you've agreed that a break is a good thing, make yourself invisible to him. Your main goal right now is to avoid him at all costs. Stay away from the places he frequents, delete his cell number from your phone and take a different route to work if you normally pass by his place. Just remove yourself from his world entirely for a few weeks. I can't stress how important it is that you don't talk to him during this time at all. Nothing. Not even a random text message to see how he is.
When you take these three steps, you're sending your ex a message that suggests that you've happily moved forward and are okay with things. When he realizes that you really don't want him anymore, he'll wonder if letting you go is really the best thing for him. Keep your cool, and look at the big picture. If you can do that, you'll stand the best chance of getting him back.