Most parents are blamed for their child's behavior because they are the ones who are primarily looked upon and become the basic role model in the family.
But parents are not the sole influence on their child's behavior nor can they be responsible for every negative move a child makes.
Children can still become involved in negative behavior even with the most loving and disciplined upbringing.
Most people see the reason or a child's uncontrollable behavior as being related to parental neglect, or lack of discipline.
This is a a common misconception that doesn't totally apply to everybody.
Every individual is responsible for their own actions including the children themselves.
The role of parents is to guide a childs behavior but when they get out of control and abusive.
Then it's time to take a step back and analyze why and how this has happened before searching for the solutions.
Obnoxious and abusive children have a knack for blaming others for their actions because they have problems accepting responsibilities.
Here's an example scenario: A kid gets asked to wash the dishes but she'd rather play with her dolls because she broke a couple of plates the last time she did that particular chore.
When asked by her mother she says yes.
This is followed by a series of questions on why the task isn't done.
She shrugs off the questions rudely.
The reason she acted that way was because that child had problems accepting responsibilities she couldn't handle.
Some kids have underdeveloped skills necessary to solve everyday problems and so this results in them compensating for it by becoming obnoxious and abusive.
Not being able to solve the problems by themselves makes the child feel very confused, frustrated and powerless resulting in avoiding responsibilities instead of accepting them.
Once asked, children might reason their way out of a task by saying it's someone else's turn, or saying they are being treated unfairly.
The child may act as if his feelings are not being heard.
What they want is to make you feel guilty so you can give in to their whims and tolerate their bad behavior.
Learn to control rather than be controlled.
A parent is, without a doubt, one of the greatest influences a child will ever have in his life - for good or for bad.
But ultimately, as children get older, they become aware and gradually become responsible for their actions.
Coach them all the way and instill in them the good values as any individual should have while they're still young, malleable and easy to handle.
The way the twig is bent, so the tree will grow.
But parents are not the sole influence on their child's behavior nor can they be responsible for every negative move a child makes.
Children can still become involved in negative behavior even with the most loving and disciplined upbringing.
Most people see the reason or a child's uncontrollable behavior as being related to parental neglect, or lack of discipline.
This is a a common misconception that doesn't totally apply to everybody.
Every individual is responsible for their own actions including the children themselves.
The role of parents is to guide a childs behavior but when they get out of control and abusive.
Then it's time to take a step back and analyze why and how this has happened before searching for the solutions.
Obnoxious and abusive children have a knack for blaming others for their actions because they have problems accepting responsibilities.
Here's an example scenario: A kid gets asked to wash the dishes but she'd rather play with her dolls because she broke a couple of plates the last time she did that particular chore.
When asked by her mother she says yes.
This is followed by a series of questions on why the task isn't done.
She shrugs off the questions rudely.
The reason she acted that way was because that child had problems accepting responsibilities she couldn't handle.
Some kids have underdeveloped skills necessary to solve everyday problems and so this results in them compensating for it by becoming obnoxious and abusive.
Not being able to solve the problems by themselves makes the child feel very confused, frustrated and powerless resulting in avoiding responsibilities instead of accepting them.
Once asked, children might reason their way out of a task by saying it's someone else's turn, or saying they are being treated unfairly.
The child may act as if his feelings are not being heard.
What they want is to make you feel guilty so you can give in to their whims and tolerate their bad behavior.
Learn to control rather than be controlled.
A parent is, without a doubt, one of the greatest influences a child will ever have in his life - for good or for bad.
But ultimately, as children get older, they become aware and gradually become responsible for their actions.
Coach them all the way and instill in them the good values as any individual should have while they're still young, malleable and easy to handle.
The way the twig is bent, so the tree will grow.