The ability to find balance in a relationship is a challenge for all couples.
When problems surrounding household chores arise, there can be expectations as to which person handles which chores.
Those expectations can lead to arguments as each of you decides on who should be responsible for what.
These disagreements may seem small and insignificant at first, but if not effectively dealt with, it can lead to further conflict.
The stress caused by one partner not assisting with the duties of maintaining a home can be substantial and that stress can cause resentment towards your partner.
In a 2007 poll conducted by the Pew Research Center, 62% of married adults said "sharing household chores" was the third most important ingredient (after faithfulness and sex) in a successful marriage (Modern Marriage, 2007).
An equal division of household chores can be tough to establish.
Most couples would agree that when both parties work full-time, each should have an equal share of household duties to help avoid any issues within the relationship.
However, there are many occasions where one person is left doing more of the housework than the other.
Some may choose to confront their partner about the lack of assistance they are receiving while others may be more reluctant to be argumentative and avoid having that discussion altogether.
Those who avoid the confrontation run the risk of resenting their partner for their deficiency in helping with the housework.
Also, the longer the issue goes unresolved the angrier one can become which can result in taking that frustration out on your partner in a contentious manner.
How we determine a household arrangement can be based on learned behaviors from our childhood that we apply in adult living.
Often we learn those roles from our own families which can lead to assumed expectations of how household chores should be divided once we become older.
Couples need to decide what the fairest way to deal with household duties, especially if they both work full-time.
Traditional households, where women stayed at home, cooked dinner, cleaned the house, and raised the children are not as common as they once were.
With more women working today, roles have shifted and the days where one person could support a household financially are virtually extinct.
These days, both people are required to work and the duties of the home are now a joint responsibility in order to maintain love and respect in the relationship.
How to fairly divide the household chores requires flexibility and willingness to compromise.
It is important to remain flexible because of the many uncertainties of everyday life.
Relationships that can exercise the ability to be accommodating to one another and can show a commitment to pitch in and help out can have greater chances for success.
Learning about each other's strengths and weaknesses can help determine the best and most equitable way to divide the household chores.
Moreover, respectful communication is needed to effectively negotiate the division of labor in the home.
Couples that can fairly allocate the housework and have mutual appreciation for each other and the household priorities can find more overall satisfaction in the relationship.
Works Cited: Modern Marriage.
(2007, July 18).
Retrieved January 27, 2013, from Pew Social Trends: http://www.
pewsocialtrends.
org/2007/07/18/modern-marriage/
When problems surrounding household chores arise, there can be expectations as to which person handles which chores.
Those expectations can lead to arguments as each of you decides on who should be responsible for what.
These disagreements may seem small and insignificant at first, but if not effectively dealt with, it can lead to further conflict.
The stress caused by one partner not assisting with the duties of maintaining a home can be substantial and that stress can cause resentment towards your partner.
In a 2007 poll conducted by the Pew Research Center, 62% of married adults said "sharing household chores" was the third most important ingredient (after faithfulness and sex) in a successful marriage (Modern Marriage, 2007).
An equal division of household chores can be tough to establish.
Most couples would agree that when both parties work full-time, each should have an equal share of household duties to help avoid any issues within the relationship.
However, there are many occasions where one person is left doing more of the housework than the other.
Some may choose to confront their partner about the lack of assistance they are receiving while others may be more reluctant to be argumentative and avoid having that discussion altogether.
Those who avoid the confrontation run the risk of resenting their partner for their deficiency in helping with the housework.
Also, the longer the issue goes unresolved the angrier one can become which can result in taking that frustration out on your partner in a contentious manner.
How we determine a household arrangement can be based on learned behaviors from our childhood that we apply in adult living.
Often we learn those roles from our own families which can lead to assumed expectations of how household chores should be divided once we become older.
Couples need to decide what the fairest way to deal with household duties, especially if they both work full-time.
Traditional households, where women stayed at home, cooked dinner, cleaned the house, and raised the children are not as common as they once were.
With more women working today, roles have shifted and the days where one person could support a household financially are virtually extinct.
These days, both people are required to work and the duties of the home are now a joint responsibility in order to maintain love and respect in the relationship.
How to fairly divide the household chores requires flexibility and willingness to compromise.
It is important to remain flexible because of the many uncertainties of everyday life.
Relationships that can exercise the ability to be accommodating to one another and can show a commitment to pitch in and help out can have greater chances for success.
Learning about each other's strengths and weaknesses can help determine the best and most equitable way to divide the household chores.
Moreover, respectful communication is needed to effectively negotiate the division of labor in the home.
Couples that can fairly allocate the housework and have mutual appreciation for each other and the household priorities can find more overall satisfaction in the relationship.
Works Cited: Modern Marriage.
(2007, July 18).
Retrieved January 27, 2013, from Pew Social Trends: http://www.
pewsocialtrends.
org/2007/07/18/modern-marriage/