You know, there is no substitute for a good first impression. It has to be good, because it is so hard to redo. It just hangs around for an awfully long time.
The First Impression is a lasting impression! You see-- most people have faith in the accuracy of their first impression. It transcends in importance the conversation starters and the funny pick up lines.
So, let's start there.
1. Presentation: The body language you present to 'the person' carries a lot of weight. So, focus on your smiling, your voice (speak in a clear, well-modulated manner), you want to stand tall, and you above all need to appear calm and in control. Don't be afraid to give a compliment. They are often warranted, and always appreciated!
2. Belong There: You don't want to appear alone and lonely. Make friends, speak to the friends you have just met, speak with the waiter in a friendly manner, likewise the bouncer. If you look lonely, you will be marked as a non-starter. Good conversation starters will come easily if you just look around. Just think, every time someone sees you laughing or seeming to enjoy yourself, your social value just went up-- significantly. Leave shyness at home. It doesn't belong with you if you are set to have a good time. Remember, you belong there!
3. Mirroring: I know you have heard of this term. It simply means duplicating the person to whom you are speaking-- leaning in, crossing legs, etc. And that is desirable and valuable. a. But, in this venue-- let us put another meaning to it. If you are nervous, ill at ease-- that may well be mirrored by the person to whom you are speaking with. And that, my friend, is not what you want. b. Conversely, if you are relaxed, open, and inviting by a smile and posture, the other person will mirror you.
4. Your physical appearance: Boy, I can hear your thoughts now - they are screaming, "I can't help the way I look!". Baloney !! Just by doing the things you should be doing on a regular basis anyway - Eating right, exercising regularly, maintaining a good healthy attitude - will ensure that you stand tall, straight and confidently. You certainly can control the way you look. And, it is important.
5. Be You: If you think you are not unique, or precious-- Think again! You certainly are. Realize your value, relish it-- and treasure yourself. You don't have to fawn over someone for any reason. You are of tremendous value-- and act like you are-- because it is true.
Now, that you have made a great impression, what next? You know that you can make a good impression if you do above-- but the evening is still young. You are just getting warmed up! And, if you are a man - the evening is still young!
You know that conversation is a great enjoyment for intelligent people. They, and you are in this company, take great joy in meeting new interesting people-- and, let's be honest, flirting is a heck of a lot of fun.
Is there a way for women to learn it?
The First Impression is a lasting impression! You see-- most people have faith in the accuracy of their first impression. It transcends in importance the conversation starters and the funny pick up lines.
So, let's start there.
1. Presentation: The body language you present to 'the person' carries a lot of weight. So, focus on your smiling, your voice (speak in a clear, well-modulated manner), you want to stand tall, and you above all need to appear calm and in control. Don't be afraid to give a compliment. They are often warranted, and always appreciated!
2. Belong There: You don't want to appear alone and lonely. Make friends, speak to the friends you have just met, speak with the waiter in a friendly manner, likewise the bouncer. If you look lonely, you will be marked as a non-starter. Good conversation starters will come easily if you just look around. Just think, every time someone sees you laughing or seeming to enjoy yourself, your social value just went up-- significantly. Leave shyness at home. It doesn't belong with you if you are set to have a good time. Remember, you belong there!
3. Mirroring: I know you have heard of this term. It simply means duplicating the person to whom you are speaking-- leaning in, crossing legs, etc. And that is desirable and valuable. a. But, in this venue-- let us put another meaning to it. If you are nervous, ill at ease-- that may well be mirrored by the person to whom you are speaking with. And that, my friend, is not what you want. b. Conversely, if you are relaxed, open, and inviting by a smile and posture, the other person will mirror you.
4. Your physical appearance: Boy, I can hear your thoughts now - they are screaming, "I can't help the way I look!". Baloney !! Just by doing the things you should be doing on a regular basis anyway - Eating right, exercising regularly, maintaining a good healthy attitude - will ensure that you stand tall, straight and confidently. You certainly can control the way you look. And, it is important.
5. Be You: If you think you are not unique, or precious-- Think again! You certainly are. Realize your value, relish it-- and treasure yourself. You don't have to fawn over someone for any reason. You are of tremendous value-- and act like you are-- because it is true.
Now, that you have made a great impression, what next? You know that you can make a good impression if you do above-- but the evening is still young. You are just getting warmed up! And, if you are a man - the evening is still young!
You know that conversation is a great enjoyment for intelligent people. They, and you are in this company, take great joy in meeting new interesting people-- and, let's be honest, flirting is a heck of a lot of fun.
Is there a way for women to learn it?