Almost every woman has that one friend that never seems to have a say in her relationship.
Whatever he wants to do is what is done, and whatever he says, goes.
You say you don't have a friend like that? Could it be then that you are the one who is always in relationships like this? Well, this is not right and good relationships do not work this way.
I'm going to tell you how to get your own share of the relationship power right now.
Read on.
Like any other person, you have thoughts, opinions, feelings, needs, and wants.
All of these things should be met and considered in a relationship.
Having self-confidence and self-respect is crucial if you want to have some balance.
You may agree with some of the things he says, does, and wants.
Then again, you may disagree at times.
If this happens, you can make your thoughts and feelings known and they are just as valuable as his thoughts.
If what's on your mind and heart isn't being treated with equal value, then it's probably time to just end the relationship.
You should never look desperate to be in a relationship.
If you are, then you will have big problems having a stake in things and him treating you like it.
Although you want to be in a relationship, it is not going to kill you if you're not in one, regardless of what you may say in your mind having read that part.
For things to work, he must accept you for who you are and value you as a person.
This is not to say that you should have all the say so in a relationship while he has none.
In the sexual sense, having a slave may be attractive, but it does not work for a relationship with one person having all of the control.
Being with someone is about far more than who's wearing the pants.
Relationships are about balance, cooperation, compromise, and equality.
Each person has their own thoughts and feelings and both people have the right to express them, agreeing or disagreeing without fighting about it or made to feel guilty over one's position.
Although you should never treat your relationship as a business partnership, it is that in some ways.
A business partnership has two people with some commonalities and differences, working together to achieve a common goal.
For a relationship, that goal is happiness.
However, if it is only your own happiness that is the goal, then you won't get very far.
Each person has to be open to and willing to compromise sometimes to make the other person happy.
Note that I said sometimes, not all of the time.
You want to be happy and so does he.
If having you do what he wants all the time and his say being the only say considered, then it's time to get out of the relationship because he's only in it to make himself happy.
For example, he calls you up and wants to take you out on the classic dinner and a movie date.
Offer some thoughts on either the movie to be seen or the restaurant to go to.
If he's always ignoring your ideas or wishes, then the next time a date is set up, make it clear that it's your call this time.
You can put your foot down and demand some say in what goes on, but just don't be a bitch about it unless you have to.
If he will not be moved on anything and gives you a fuss about doing what you want to do sometimes, then just move on.
He's not worth the time if he won't be happy with you not being controlled.
You don't have to be the silent, always agreeable, "good little woman".
If he truly likes you and wants to be with you, he will value you as an individual.
He will do what he can to make you happy as well as himself.
If he doesn't, he doesn't deserve you and shouldn't have you.
For more advice on what to do about a lopsided power balance, or any other relationship issues, subscribe to my newsletter for all the answers.
Whatever he wants to do is what is done, and whatever he says, goes.
You say you don't have a friend like that? Could it be then that you are the one who is always in relationships like this? Well, this is not right and good relationships do not work this way.
I'm going to tell you how to get your own share of the relationship power right now.
Read on.
Like any other person, you have thoughts, opinions, feelings, needs, and wants.
All of these things should be met and considered in a relationship.
Having self-confidence and self-respect is crucial if you want to have some balance.
You may agree with some of the things he says, does, and wants.
Then again, you may disagree at times.
If this happens, you can make your thoughts and feelings known and they are just as valuable as his thoughts.
If what's on your mind and heart isn't being treated with equal value, then it's probably time to just end the relationship.
You should never look desperate to be in a relationship.
If you are, then you will have big problems having a stake in things and him treating you like it.
Although you want to be in a relationship, it is not going to kill you if you're not in one, regardless of what you may say in your mind having read that part.
For things to work, he must accept you for who you are and value you as a person.
This is not to say that you should have all the say so in a relationship while he has none.
In the sexual sense, having a slave may be attractive, but it does not work for a relationship with one person having all of the control.
Being with someone is about far more than who's wearing the pants.
Relationships are about balance, cooperation, compromise, and equality.
Each person has their own thoughts and feelings and both people have the right to express them, agreeing or disagreeing without fighting about it or made to feel guilty over one's position.
Although you should never treat your relationship as a business partnership, it is that in some ways.
A business partnership has two people with some commonalities and differences, working together to achieve a common goal.
For a relationship, that goal is happiness.
However, if it is only your own happiness that is the goal, then you won't get very far.
Each person has to be open to and willing to compromise sometimes to make the other person happy.
Note that I said sometimes, not all of the time.
You want to be happy and so does he.
If having you do what he wants all the time and his say being the only say considered, then it's time to get out of the relationship because he's only in it to make himself happy.
For example, he calls you up and wants to take you out on the classic dinner and a movie date.
Offer some thoughts on either the movie to be seen or the restaurant to go to.
If he's always ignoring your ideas or wishes, then the next time a date is set up, make it clear that it's your call this time.
You can put your foot down and demand some say in what goes on, but just don't be a bitch about it unless you have to.
If he will not be moved on anything and gives you a fuss about doing what you want to do sometimes, then just move on.
He's not worth the time if he won't be happy with you not being controlled.
You don't have to be the silent, always agreeable, "good little woman".
If he truly likes you and wants to be with you, he will value you as an individual.
He will do what he can to make you happy as well as himself.
If he doesn't, he doesn't deserve you and shouldn't have you.
For more advice on what to do about a lopsided power balance, or any other relationship issues, subscribe to my newsletter for all the answers.