Is your marriage in trouble? Are you trying to find a way to avoid a divorce? Are you searching for answers to the question: can I save my marriage before it's too late? Whatever words you keyed in that got you to this article, it was a plea of desperation.
I know how you feel because I've been there too.
I was already divorced before I discovered that I couldn't live without my spouse.
You don't have to wait that long.
You can turn it around before there is a divorce.
Half of the battle is already won because one half of the union, that's you, wants to reconcile.
Because it was you that began the search, it will fall to you to initiate the process for resolution.
The tools you'll need for the job are sincerity, humility, and willingness to compromise.
You need to start with a sincere apology.
Weather or not you are the one who should apologize is not the issue here.
This is where the humility thing kicks in.
This is also, vitally important and powerful.
You see this will open doors that will be closed to you otherwise.
This will also usher in a spirit of forgiveness and further apologies on both sides of the issues.
You will need to compromise on many lesser issues and that is to be expected.
However, there can be no compromise on love.
You see, "Love is patient, Love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.
" 1 Corinthians 13:4.
You both have probably forgotten what it really means to love.
You need to remember what it was like in the beginning of your marriage.
All those things that love is or isn't, are the things you practiced even without thinking about them.
You may not have even known the definition before.
The attributes were embedded in your hearts.
It's just what you did.
And that's the place where you need to get back to.