The most difficult thing in most peoples lives is building a meaningful relationship with that one special person.
Finding a special person is half the challenge, making the relationship last is the other.
So why is it so difficult to make relationships last? Perhaps it's because we've all run out of time to spend with one another.
Maybe as a society we've just grown to expect too much too soon with very little effort? Or maybe it's because we've all lost trust in one another? Trust is the most important thing in any relationship.
Without it a relationship is doomed.
So, how do you build trust in a relationship? First, it starts with building confidence in yourself.
A lot of people enter relationships assessing the other person, without first assessing themselves.
The less confident you are in yourself, the more likely you are to be unnecessarily jealous, controlling, and manipulative - all in an effort to buffer your own feelings of insecurity - not for the benefit of the relationship.
Accepting your partners lifestyle and friends is also an important part of building trust in a relationship.
Setting unrealistic expectations for a new relationship will also lead to disappointment.
When we expect too much from our partners, we tend to try to change them into something that better fits our desires.
While some trivial changes in behavior such as chewing gum with your mouth open can be changed (for the better) other fundamental changes, such as who they spend their time with, general interests, and personality cant be changed.
If you find yourself wanting the change your partner into something new, it's probably a sign you need to find a new partner.