When did shyness start for you? Do you remember the first time someone told you to "speak up" and quit being so shy? Or did someone introduce you as "The Shy One?" Do you remember the first time you felt shy and social anxiety at the thought of a party or holiday gathering? Were you scared to death that you would be asked to do or say something that would be embarrassing? Many people ask themselves "Why do I do what I do?" There is never just one answer of why we do what we do and act like we do, but there are clues in our past.
Parents and caregivers are the most important influence in learning to speak and communicate with others.
We learn through verbal and non verbal language what is acceptable and what will make others angry and lash out at us.
We learned to connect the sounds and actions of communication with things we got or things we wanted done.
As children, we usually adapted a method of communication that would bring us satisfaction.
You learned to talk in some situations and to be quiet in others.
You Made The Choice to Be Shy Some parents talk little and insist their children be "seen not heard.
" Some of those children may make the choice to be shy and introverted and others may become just the opposite; highly verbal and aggressive.
In my work with families and day care centers, I see many adults who are fluent and communicative with children but completely freeze up when in a social situation with other adults.
Parents are caregivers are the most important influence children have to respond to.
Even if they don't encourage shyness, they enable the shy person to navigate the system and feel needed to interpret what the child may want and need.
World Full of Disapproving Parents There are many shy people who regard the whole world as full of disapproving parents waiting to shut them up or belittle their opinions.
They forget that they are now adults and can make mature decisions about what was for their best interest and what gave them erroneous messages.
Make a Choice to Be Confident By changing your belief system and looking at what happened as a child with adult eyes, you will be able to make a choice to be confident.
Building self confidence is a skill and like any other skill, takes guidance, practice and consistent effort to achieve your goal.
If you are ready to make a new plan for "why do I do what I do" and overcome shyness and social anxiety, you will be glad to get this special report at
Parents and caregivers are the most important influence in learning to speak and communicate with others.
We learn through verbal and non verbal language what is acceptable and what will make others angry and lash out at us.
We learned to connect the sounds and actions of communication with things we got or things we wanted done.
As children, we usually adapted a method of communication that would bring us satisfaction.
You learned to talk in some situations and to be quiet in others.
You Made The Choice to Be Shy Some parents talk little and insist their children be "seen not heard.
" Some of those children may make the choice to be shy and introverted and others may become just the opposite; highly verbal and aggressive.
In my work with families and day care centers, I see many adults who are fluent and communicative with children but completely freeze up when in a social situation with other adults.
Parents are caregivers are the most important influence children have to respond to.
Even if they don't encourage shyness, they enable the shy person to navigate the system and feel needed to interpret what the child may want and need.
World Full of Disapproving Parents There are many shy people who regard the whole world as full of disapproving parents waiting to shut them up or belittle their opinions.
They forget that they are now adults and can make mature decisions about what was for their best interest and what gave them erroneous messages.
Make a Choice to Be Confident By changing your belief system and looking at what happened as a child with adult eyes, you will be able to make a choice to be confident.
Building self confidence is a skill and like any other skill, takes guidance, practice and consistent effort to achieve your goal.
If you are ready to make a new plan for "why do I do what I do" and overcome shyness and social anxiety, you will be glad to get this special report at