Relationship Advice - How To End an Intimate Relationship With Dignity
Being dumped is painful even when you know it's coming.
Although you may know the relationship was going nowhere, it's still the idea of having to start all over again that can be overwhelming.
But there are ways to end a relationship that can make it less brutal for both parties.
Before you end a relationship, you want to make sure this is the best decision...
for both sides.
If you want to end your intimate relationship but they don't, this is not really a good enough reason to stay.
This is going to force you to take a good long look at yourself and your feelings:
And above all, you need to be honest with yourself.
When you decide to end an intimate relationship, it should not be out of anger or resentment.
If you are feeling these emotions, then take a step back and try to relax for a moment.
Once you cool down, try to make the decision again and see if you come up with the same answer.
If you do make the decision to call it quits, then stick with your choice.
When you tell your partner, there is a good possibility he or she is going to try to talk you out of it.
You made the choice for a reason and, as long as you were brutally honest with yourself, you should stick with your decision.
Don't make promises you are not going to be willing to keep.
"We can still be friends": how do you know that? If you are going to end the relationship, then it needs to completely end.
That means going your separate ways.
The last thing you want is to have them as your friend when you start dating again.
Choose when and where wisely.
If you are going to let someone down, at least be decent about it:
And make sure you each have an exit plan.
That means both of you need to have a way to leave as soon as the announcement is made.
Although you may know the relationship was going nowhere, it's still the idea of having to start all over again that can be overwhelming.
But there are ways to end a relationship that can make it less brutal for both parties.
Before you end a relationship, you want to make sure this is the best decision...
for both sides.
If you want to end your intimate relationship but they don't, this is not really a good enough reason to stay.
This is going to force you to take a good long look at yourself and your feelings:
- why am I considering ending this relationship?
- is this as far as the relationship can go?
And above all, you need to be honest with yourself.
When you decide to end an intimate relationship, it should not be out of anger or resentment.
If you are feeling these emotions, then take a step back and try to relax for a moment.
Once you cool down, try to make the decision again and see if you come up with the same answer.
If you do make the decision to call it quits, then stick with your choice.
When you tell your partner, there is a good possibility he or she is going to try to talk you out of it.
You made the choice for a reason and, as long as you were brutally honest with yourself, you should stick with your decision.
Don't make promises you are not going to be willing to keep.
"We can still be friends": how do you know that? If you are going to end the relationship, then it needs to completely end.
That means going your separate ways.
The last thing you want is to have them as your friend when you start dating again.
Choose when and where wisely.
If you are going to let someone down, at least be decent about it:
- don't do it in front of other people,
- don't do it at their work,
- don't do it while they are celebrating an event,
- don't do it when your boyfriend or girlfriend feels down, and
- don't wait until the end of a date.
And make sure you each have an exit plan.
That means both of you need to have a way to leave as soon as the announcement is made.