Relationships present challenges and work to anyone who wishes for them to succeed.
Healthy relationship dynamics allow for give and take, and each partner contributes to making the relationship work.
However, there are situations with relationships that involve an unbalanced dynamic, where one partner's dysfunction or abusive tendencies causes the balance to become skewed.
If the other party in the relationship continues to pour excessive effort and giving into the relationship at that point, the cycle perpetuates and a dysfunctional system is set up.
Being megatolerant of a partner's faults or bad behaviors can lead to serious unhappiness and issues in the relationship.
Here are 4 signs that you might be taking too much in your relationship: 1.
You minimize or make excuses for your partner's behavior to yourself.
You might tell yourself, "Well it could be worse, he could be _____.
" But comparing bad behavior to worse behavior doesn't make it acceptable or healthy in the relationship.
2.
You make excuses for or hide your partner's bad behavior to others.
You may even take responsibility and attempt to meet your partner's failed commitments.
You might feel a sense of needing to protect your partner's standing in the eyes of others, as well as conceal your own shame at putting up with the things you do.
3.
You are almost panicky at the thought of being without your partner, so much so that might drop confrontations over issues and abandon ultimatums.
You may feel as if you can't go on alone and that there isn't anything better out there, so you might as well stay.
4.
You also feel as if your partner might not be able to survive without you and that you have an obligation to stick around and make sure he or she doesn't self destruct.
You might feel a sense of strong guilt at the thought that your partner might harm him or herself and it would be your fault.
It is more comfortable to coexist in a primarily giving situation than a relationship in which there is equal give and take.