Copyright (c) 2009 Vin DiCarlo
There are really two ways to pre-empt any potential flake outs.
(Flake-outs, or "flaking," if you're new to my stuff, means that you got a woman's phone number, but she's either not calling you back, or being difficult about going on a date with you.)
The first way to minimize the chances of a woman flaking on you is by having a GREAT first interaction. If there's chemistry, odds are, she will be very motivated to answer the phone, or call/text you back.
The second way is even more powerful. If you can sleep with a woman the first time you meet her, you can guarantee she'll never flake on you.
But to do this consistently is the reality of a master pickup artist.
If you aren't there yet, you're gonna have to rely on some anti-flaking maneuvers.
The first thing to understand is the female mind.
Ok, it's not THAT simple. In fact, you'll probably NEVER totally understand how women think.
That's because each woman is different. In dealing with flakes, that is the first key.
She probably has her own reasons for not calling you back, and the odds are, they have nothing to do with you.
I know how frustrating it can be when you do all that work and push through all those emotional walls, only to hit a dead end with NO EXPLANATION as to WHAT WENT WRONG!
Think about it - you see her. You know you have to meet her. But you're also terrified.
So you work up the nerve to approach, as if this were the frontlines of battle.
And you push through the initial awkwardness of the conversation with this stranger.
And you work up the courage to ask for a number.
And then with your phone in your hand you sit there later that night.
Her number is on the display.
And you sit...and think about what you're going to say. And you sit some more.
"Ok, I'm gonna do it. Just be cool. Just be yourself."
And you call...it's ringing...and ringing....and....voicemail.
"Uh hey it's Vin, from uh, from the - from today. It was nice meeting you, so um just call me whenever ok? Um my number is xxx-xxxx. Ok just call me ok? Bye."
(I just vomited in my mouth)
God this brings back so many painful memories. Listen - let's put an end to this.
The thing that can be hardest to overcome is bad memories of failed phone calls.
I remember calling girls in high school, and let's just say, it usually resulted in them avoiding me the next day.
Forced conversation is probably the worst thing you can do, aside from getting ignored altogether.
It all comes down to trying to say the right thing. Brian, my trainer, has a great bit of feedback for guys struggling with this.
He says, "allow yourself to be boring, stupid, lame, un-funny, and offensive. Because if you have to walk on eggshells around her, why would you want to date her?"
Awesome.
My main guy in the Western Hemisphere, Matt, has a similar approach.
This is a guy who accelerated so fast after first getting trained. He advocates COMPLETELY SPONTANEOUS NATURAL GAME.
In fact, he refuses to premeditate anything.
I've seen him do some pretty silly stuff, and pull it off with the HOTTEST WOMEN (like the Victoria Secret model in NYC last summer).
It's interesting to contrast these two guys.
Matt is very friendly and silly.
Brian is more quiet and rough around the edges.
Thin, tall and glamorous model type is what Matt after for.
Brian goes for curvy, ethnic women, who are more "ghetto" than "glamour."
But they get the same results.
If they're not pulling THAT NIGHT, the number is solid.
And even if it isn't, they MAKE IT SOLID because their ant-flaking game is so tight.
There are really two ways to pre-empt any potential flake outs.
(Flake-outs, or "flaking," if you're new to my stuff, means that you got a woman's phone number, but she's either not calling you back, or being difficult about going on a date with you.)
The first way to minimize the chances of a woman flaking on you is by having a GREAT first interaction. If there's chemistry, odds are, she will be very motivated to answer the phone, or call/text you back.
The second way is even more powerful. If you can sleep with a woman the first time you meet her, you can guarantee she'll never flake on you.
But to do this consistently is the reality of a master pickup artist.
If you aren't there yet, you're gonna have to rely on some anti-flaking maneuvers.
The first thing to understand is the female mind.
Ok, it's not THAT simple. In fact, you'll probably NEVER totally understand how women think.
That's because each woman is different. In dealing with flakes, that is the first key.
She probably has her own reasons for not calling you back, and the odds are, they have nothing to do with you.
I know how frustrating it can be when you do all that work and push through all those emotional walls, only to hit a dead end with NO EXPLANATION as to WHAT WENT WRONG!
Think about it - you see her. You know you have to meet her. But you're also terrified.
So you work up the nerve to approach, as if this were the frontlines of battle.
And you push through the initial awkwardness of the conversation with this stranger.
And you work up the courage to ask for a number.
And then with your phone in your hand you sit there later that night.
Her number is on the display.
And you sit...and think about what you're going to say. And you sit some more.
"Ok, I'm gonna do it. Just be cool. Just be yourself."
And you call...it's ringing...and ringing....and....voicemail.
"Uh hey it's Vin, from uh, from the - from today. It was nice meeting you, so um just call me whenever ok? Um my number is xxx-xxxx. Ok just call me ok? Bye."
(I just vomited in my mouth)
God this brings back so many painful memories. Listen - let's put an end to this.
The thing that can be hardest to overcome is bad memories of failed phone calls.
I remember calling girls in high school, and let's just say, it usually resulted in them avoiding me the next day.
Forced conversation is probably the worst thing you can do, aside from getting ignored altogether.
It all comes down to trying to say the right thing. Brian, my trainer, has a great bit of feedback for guys struggling with this.
He says, "allow yourself to be boring, stupid, lame, un-funny, and offensive. Because if you have to walk on eggshells around her, why would you want to date her?"
Awesome.
My main guy in the Western Hemisphere, Matt, has a similar approach.
This is a guy who accelerated so fast after first getting trained. He advocates COMPLETELY SPONTANEOUS NATURAL GAME.
In fact, he refuses to premeditate anything.
I've seen him do some pretty silly stuff, and pull it off with the HOTTEST WOMEN (like the Victoria Secret model in NYC last summer).
It's interesting to contrast these two guys.
Matt is very friendly and silly.
Brian is more quiet and rough around the edges.
Thin, tall and glamorous model type is what Matt after for.
Brian goes for curvy, ethnic women, who are more "ghetto" than "glamour."
But they get the same results.
If they're not pulling THAT NIGHT, the number is solid.
And even if it isn't, they MAKE IT SOLID because their ant-flaking game is so tight.