How to Talk to My Ex Boyfriend - Discover the Shortcut to Opening the Lines of Communication Again
Things you can talk about and, essentially, how you come across while talking are very important.
Read on to know more.
Be calm and collected Most girls make the mistake of sounding desperate when they call their ex boyfriend.
You have to realize the importance of sounding cool and normal so that he does not have an edge over you, your desperation shows that you are needy and this gives him an upper hand.
Get hold of a reason for you to talk You cannot just pick up the phone and then think what to talk about.
It will get you all nervous and you start fumbling over words, this is not the impression you want to give when you call.
You can ask about his classes if you both are studying or talk about your work if that is the case.
Do not bring unpleasant past Talk to him as you would to a friend.
Do not bring the topic of break up or the reasons why it happened when you talk.
Leave it in the past where it belongs, and do not start to apologize or seek justification for your actions.
If it was his fault, let it rest as there is no point bringing it up now.
Do not be manipulative Don't ever think of seeking his sympathy by shedding tears or showing that you are sad; it may only get him irritated.
Do not text him yet and if you don't get through to him, leave a voice mail and wait for his response.
Fight the urge to call again or send the message, it shows your desperation.
Keep your call short and crisp Be casual and act a little distracted, let him sense that you are not hanging on to each word he says.
Keep the topic casual and do not show interest in his social life by sounding inquisitive about it.
End the call saying you have other things to do, this will make him curious and he will want to call back to know more about what is happening in your life.
Remain non committal Do not end the call by saying you hope that he calls back, by remaining non committal you are leaving him guessing.
And since you left the call early, he may wonder what is so important that you ended the call.
Making him feel that way will push him to get back to you.
Be friendly when you meet Hopefully a few phone calls later you would want to meet.
Take effort to dress up well and try to have some fun, act normal and be friendly with him.