A breakup brings pain, tears and heartache.
Life comes to a halt.
Nothing seems to work.
Dreams get shattered and you feel hopeless, but it doesn't have to be like that.
Gather courage, take control of your life and move on.
Here are 8 tips to help you out.
Accept the Reality We always want to stay in control and sometimes we do succeed, but there are times when things are not in our hands.
Call it destiny, fate, luck, life, god or whatever, some mysterious power greater than us does things that we might not like.
A break up could be one such thing, don't be too harsh on yourself during this traumatic phase.
It's something that you couldn't do much about.
Don't Push Yourself too Hard to Forget Her You had seen such beautiful dreams together, made so many promises to each other that it seems almost impossible not to have her by your side now.
Hard it may sound, but the reality is, she is no more your girl friend and now you want to forget her.
Why? Because she didn't turn up as you had expected? Because she didn't act as you wanted? Remember those moments you've had with her? Those moments were so beautiful that you wanted them to last forever.
Don't insult the beautiful bond both of you shared once, by trying to forget her.
Be grateful instead- for those magical moments of love, for those beautiful evenings, for those caring nights, for those cozy afternoons, for the joy, laughter and fun and divinity.
She made your life a lot richer than ever.
Let those memories stay with you or let them go.
Do whatever feels right.
Don't fight.
Just go with the flow.
Forgive Her Life is infinite.
You never know what plans are there in store for you.
Harboring a grudge for her in your heart is not a good idea for sure.
You don't know the real reason why she dumped you? You only know what she told you or maybe you assumed something by yourself.
She may be in love with you still but cannot stay in the relationship because of some other reasons, which she does not want you to be aware of.
Who knows what happened? Don't be judgmental.
You loved her so much that you can't afford NOT to forgive her.
She deserved the love then and now she deserves the forgiveness.
Forgive her and move on.
This too Shall Pass Nothing lasts forever.
Things change with time either for good or bad.
It's up to you, how you see them.
It's just a matter of time.
Time is the greatest healer.
It heals every wound, no matter how deep it is.
Give yourself some time and soon you'll see the pain disappearing and life getting back to normal again.
Spend Time with Family and Friends A breakup is not the end of the world, though it may seem like one.
No matter what-life goes on.
You need to go with its current and family and friends can help you overcome the heartache.
Share with them what you are going through -emotions, mental blockages, hurt, grudge or whatever that is bothering you.
Maybe, you can share it with your father.
Does that sound scary and impractical? If yes, let it be, but you might surprise yourself to get some wonderful tips and emotional support from his side.
(he also might have gone through the same trauma in his teenage days) Friends can also help you feel good about yourself.
Do spend time with them.
Online gaming, outing or just hanging out may help you dilute the pain.
Give it a try.
Focus On Your Goals Thoughts follow attention, if your attention is focused on your ex, then this is where thoughts will go.
You can change this by focusing your attention on your goals, dreams and aspirations and the plans for your future.
Think about how you can pursue them and gradually your thoughts will start flowing in that direction.
It takes time and efforts to change the direction of your thoughts but is really worth it.
Have Faith in the Universe Have faith in the universe that there's lots of love out there and you'll get someone just right for you at just the right time.
Believe in love and leave everything in the hands of universe.
It'll guide you in the right direction.
Love Yourself It's quite natural to start feeling guilty and unworthy of love going through a heartache.
It's the dumbest thing you could do.
It lowers your self esteem and affects your self confidence.
Always remember that you are a person worthy of love and good things.
Love yourself, nurture yourself.
You are the most important and valuable person in your life.
Treat yourself with love and respect.
Life comes to a halt.
Nothing seems to work.
Dreams get shattered and you feel hopeless, but it doesn't have to be like that.
Gather courage, take control of your life and move on.
Here are 8 tips to help you out.
Accept the Reality We always want to stay in control and sometimes we do succeed, but there are times when things are not in our hands.
Call it destiny, fate, luck, life, god or whatever, some mysterious power greater than us does things that we might not like.
A break up could be one such thing, don't be too harsh on yourself during this traumatic phase.
It's something that you couldn't do much about.
Don't Push Yourself too Hard to Forget Her You had seen such beautiful dreams together, made so many promises to each other that it seems almost impossible not to have her by your side now.
Hard it may sound, but the reality is, she is no more your girl friend and now you want to forget her.
Why? Because she didn't turn up as you had expected? Because she didn't act as you wanted? Remember those moments you've had with her? Those moments were so beautiful that you wanted them to last forever.
Don't insult the beautiful bond both of you shared once, by trying to forget her.
Be grateful instead- for those magical moments of love, for those beautiful evenings, for those caring nights, for those cozy afternoons, for the joy, laughter and fun and divinity.
She made your life a lot richer than ever.
Let those memories stay with you or let them go.
Do whatever feels right.
Don't fight.
Just go with the flow.
Forgive Her Life is infinite.
You never know what plans are there in store for you.
Harboring a grudge for her in your heart is not a good idea for sure.
You don't know the real reason why she dumped you? You only know what she told you or maybe you assumed something by yourself.
She may be in love with you still but cannot stay in the relationship because of some other reasons, which she does not want you to be aware of.
Who knows what happened? Don't be judgmental.
You loved her so much that you can't afford NOT to forgive her.
She deserved the love then and now she deserves the forgiveness.
Forgive her and move on.
This too Shall Pass Nothing lasts forever.
Things change with time either for good or bad.
It's up to you, how you see them.
It's just a matter of time.
Time is the greatest healer.
It heals every wound, no matter how deep it is.
Give yourself some time and soon you'll see the pain disappearing and life getting back to normal again.
Spend Time with Family and Friends A breakup is not the end of the world, though it may seem like one.
No matter what-life goes on.
You need to go with its current and family and friends can help you overcome the heartache.
Share with them what you are going through -emotions, mental blockages, hurt, grudge or whatever that is bothering you.
Maybe, you can share it with your father.
Does that sound scary and impractical? If yes, let it be, but you might surprise yourself to get some wonderful tips and emotional support from his side.
(he also might have gone through the same trauma in his teenage days) Friends can also help you feel good about yourself.
Do spend time with them.
Online gaming, outing or just hanging out may help you dilute the pain.
Give it a try.
Focus On Your Goals Thoughts follow attention, if your attention is focused on your ex, then this is where thoughts will go.
You can change this by focusing your attention on your goals, dreams and aspirations and the plans for your future.
Think about how you can pursue them and gradually your thoughts will start flowing in that direction.
It takes time and efforts to change the direction of your thoughts but is really worth it.
Have Faith in the Universe Have faith in the universe that there's lots of love out there and you'll get someone just right for you at just the right time.
Believe in love and leave everything in the hands of universe.
It'll guide you in the right direction.
Love Yourself It's quite natural to start feeling guilty and unworthy of love going through a heartache.
It's the dumbest thing you could do.
It lowers your self esteem and affects your self confidence.
Always remember that you are a person worthy of love and good things.
Love yourself, nurture yourself.
You are the most important and valuable person in your life.
Treat yourself with love and respect.