Wondering How To Win Back A Girl"s Heart Who Is Seeing Other Guys? It Is A Waste Of Time
If you are wondering how to win back a girls heart who is seeing other guys, then FORGET IT.
On the dating women radio show I co-host, I see this kind of thinking all the time.
Also, I have been rolling around various dating forums online and have been viewing long posts from guys who are wondering how to get back with their ex.
Here are some reasons, in no particular order, why this type of mental state is ultimately self-defeating.
A disclaimer before you read this.
There can be the RARE instance where a woman breaks up with a guy that she really loves but just cannot stay with him because of maybe a gambling problem or something similar.
This guy can clean up his act and then she accepts him back into her life because SHE LOVED HIM ALL ALONG.
Unfortunately, in the vast majority of cases, the guy got her to fall in love, got too comfortable and did not treat her the same as he did when they were dating and then lost her because he was not the guy she fell in love with.
ONE: She will NEVER forget why you two broke up in the first place Like the little engine that could, you wait through her next 5 boyfriends and you finally get her back.
Congratulations.
You have her back.
Guess what? Your "bliss" will be interrupted post haste because burned into her brain is what happened before.
She NEVER forgets so she can never be as in love with you as she was before.
If you can accept less love than you had before, go for it.
I personally would rather find a new girl to give me 100% of herself as opposed to an old flame who has flamed out and cannot give me all of herself due to my perceived past sins (in her mind, anyway).
TWO: The last man standing syndrome There you are.
"Mr.
Hang In There!" She has seen 2 different guys in the course of a year.
One guy she got rid of after a month because he turned out to be too clingy.
The other one she REALLY FELL for and they dated for 11 months.
Let us call him "Mr.
A List.
" Mr.
A List really spun her world.
She was planning on getting married and was searching through the real estate listings for the perfect picket fence home for them when he cheated on her.
Problem? "Mr.
A List" had her on his B list and she got her heart shattered.
With confidence down, she decides that men are not worth it because Mr.
A List took her for a ride.
So, pursuing the A list guys is out for her and she does not want to run into any further clingy guys.
What does she decide to do? You have been calling for the last year at random intervals so she thinks to herself "Well, I do not want to be alone.
I think I will go back out with "Mr.
Hang In There!" You two are back together! You are so happy! You are determined to make it work this time.
She seems happy for awhile but frequently you see her looking out the window with a distant look in her eyes.
Guess who she is thinking about? Mr.
A List, that is who! Are you getting the idea? Once this girl breaks up with you and starts seeing other guys, it is OVER FOREVER.
If you are wondering how to win back a girls heart who is seeing other guys, then FORGET IT, because you will never have all of her again.
Remember guys, if you cannot have 100% of her interest and love, it is not worth it.
On the dating women radio show I co-host, I see this kind of thinking all the time.
Also, I have been rolling around various dating forums online and have been viewing long posts from guys who are wondering how to get back with their ex.
Here are some reasons, in no particular order, why this type of mental state is ultimately self-defeating.
A disclaimer before you read this.
There can be the RARE instance where a woman breaks up with a guy that she really loves but just cannot stay with him because of maybe a gambling problem or something similar.
This guy can clean up his act and then she accepts him back into her life because SHE LOVED HIM ALL ALONG.
Unfortunately, in the vast majority of cases, the guy got her to fall in love, got too comfortable and did not treat her the same as he did when they were dating and then lost her because he was not the guy she fell in love with.
ONE: She will NEVER forget why you two broke up in the first place Like the little engine that could, you wait through her next 5 boyfriends and you finally get her back.
Congratulations.
You have her back.
Guess what? Your "bliss" will be interrupted post haste because burned into her brain is what happened before.
She NEVER forgets so she can never be as in love with you as she was before.
If you can accept less love than you had before, go for it.
I personally would rather find a new girl to give me 100% of herself as opposed to an old flame who has flamed out and cannot give me all of herself due to my perceived past sins (in her mind, anyway).
TWO: The last man standing syndrome There you are.
"Mr.
Hang In There!" She has seen 2 different guys in the course of a year.
One guy she got rid of after a month because he turned out to be too clingy.
The other one she REALLY FELL for and they dated for 11 months.
Let us call him "Mr.
A List.
" Mr.
A List really spun her world.
She was planning on getting married and was searching through the real estate listings for the perfect picket fence home for them when he cheated on her.
Problem? "Mr.
A List" had her on his B list and she got her heart shattered.
With confidence down, she decides that men are not worth it because Mr.
A List took her for a ride.
So, pursuing the A list guys is out for her and she does not want to run into any further clingy guys.
What does she decide to do? You have been calling for the last year at random intervals so she thinks to herself "Well, I do not want to be alone.
I think I will go back out with "Mr.
Hang In There!" You two are back together! You are so happy! You are determined to make it work this time.
She seems happy for awhile but frequently you see her looking out the window with a distant look in her eyes.
Guess who she is thinking about? Mr.
A List, that is who! Are you getting the idea? Once this girl breaks up with you and starts seeing other guys, it is OVER FOREVER.
If you are wondering how to win back a girls heart who is seeing other guys, then FORGET IT, because you will never have all of her again.
Remember guys, if you cannot have 100% of her interest and love, it is not worth it.