Sometimes, relationships can get so bad that divorce seems like the only option.
Divorce may be an easy way out, but it is not the smartest move.
Divorce has a way of coming up at the worst possible time when children are trying to get situated in life, and when families are in the midst of growing up together as a single family unit.
Families need time together to grow in unison so that fracturing, fragmenting, and breaking up doesn't take place amongst the family members.
If one spouse wants out, and you are determined to stay in the relationship, you must take certain steps to ensure that the relationship goes on even further.
You must try your hardest to make sure that the relationship has a great chance of working out in the long run.
The best thing that one partner can do when the other wants out of the relationship is request a trial separation.
This is a better option than a divorce because it leaves the option open of a reunion of the marriage later.
If both parties get a divorce out of sheer spite, ignorance, or malfeasance, then the relationship can have no chance of flourishing in the future.
Without the relationship going on and continuing, there is no hope for the children.
That's why a trial separation is better even if it seems counterintuitive.
Trial separations are the grease that keeps the wheels of the relationship turning, even if it doesn't seem to right to use that method at first.
The way that it works is by giving your spouse some time to think, be away from you, date other people, and figure out what his or her life means to him or her.
This can be an abrupt change for the whole family, but it is certainly better than divorce which shuts the door on any further relationship at all.
The trick with a relationship is getting it to go on despite whatever may befall it.
A trial separation is much better than an outright divorce in this instance.
Time spent apart from a relationship can be much needed by both parties, even the party that is not wanting to go through with a separation in the first place.
Chances are that the partner who wants a trial separation wants it for some reason, and that reason may have to do with certain factors that are encroaching on the marriage.
These encroaching factors may have to do with all the negativity coming from the other spouse, even the spouse that wants the relationship to go on.
This negativity may have a reason though, and it may be best to let a trial separation clear the air for that negativity.
That negativity may be dispelled with enough time spent apart, and then the relationship can resume in a fresh manner afterward.