Bring Back Intimacy in Marriage - 7 Ways to Spark Romance With Your Spouse
- Put Things into Perspective.
Don't allow minor irritations to snowball, such as little annoying habits your spouse may have like having no sense of direction when driving or leaving the toilet seat up.
Either address these issues head-on by letting your spouse know what bothers you, or accept them as minor.
Instead, look at the bigger picture.
Look for the things that you appreciate about your spouse.
Allow this to be at the forefront of you perspective, rather than what is wrong with your spouse.
No one is perfect.
Sometimes, not even you. - Talk to your spouse.
Get into the habit of engaging in conversations with your spouse.
Try to think of amusing anecdotes to talk about or find topics on things you both enjoy discussing.
Don't turn your conversations into checklists, such as - did you pick up the laundry? What time will you be home for dinner? etc. - Avoid arguing before going to bed.
There's a lot of truth in the old saying, "don't go to bed mad".
For one thing, little is accomplished in an argument that takes place in the evening when both of you are exhausted from your day's activities.
You are more likely to say things you may later regret for lack of a better reason than your thinking isn't the sharpest at the end of the day.
Fighting before bedtime will probably cause a restless night.
Couples that sleep well tend to get along better.
Instead, reserve evenings for winding down and de-stressing.
It's a good time to just cuddle or engage in stress free conversations. - Keep the romance alive.
Do those silly little things that are "cute".
Exchange kisses, hold hands while watching television, give each other compliments.
Most importantly, make sure you find some "couple" time.
Make it a habit to schedule regular date nights with your spouse. - Support each other.
Give each other encouragement and support.
If you know something is important to your spouse, support them.
Allow your spouse the freedom to be themselves.
If your spouse loves gardening or golf, even if you don't, allow them to enjoy those activities without making them feel guilty.
You will find the same kind of support coming back your way. - Remember to say "Thank you".
Relationships suffer when couples don't show each other enough gratitude.
It's one of those gestures that is often forgotten once married.
Start to remember to say thank you for the little things.
For example, "thank you for the nice dinner you prepared" or "thank you for picking up the kids today".
A little appreciation goes a long way. - Do things the two of you enjoy.
What brought the two of you together? Was it a shared hobby or activity? What sparked the romance? Bring back that old feeling.
Find time to do those special things together.
Perhaps it was playing tennis or reading poetry to each other.
Keep that special part of your relationship alive.
Make yours beautiful and memorable.
Relishing the moments creates happy relationships.