A spouse does not possess one quality.
There are numerous behavioral patterns adapted to a being.
What this is saying is that there are qualities in your spouse that are very much appreciated by you and also other qualities that put you off.
Likewise you, you are no different from a human, not everything about you is appreciated.
When the word crises expatiate in an affair, it is always as a result of non-acceptance of one true nature.
Nature has not created a prefect being, it has not said you possess only good qualities and you, you don't.
Nature has not lied to us.
We have lied to ourselves and we are still lying to ourselves.
It beat my mind when I see couples struggling a way in and within a very short period also searching for a way out.
Why is this so? Refusal to understand that love is not just an affection but a reflection of itself.
If you genuinely understand what love is then you will also understand that love reflect on its attributes.
What are the attributes of love? There we go; care, loving, kindness, sincerity, honesty, modesty, it reflect to make a differences; a genuine one.
Love reflects on patience, endurances, and so on.
Can you point out any imperfectness in your spouse? This can be the true beginning of real romance in your affair as you learn to accept, cope and tolerate this imperfectness.
Nobody is good or bad, it is our overwhelmed behavior that makes us appear in either of this forms.
To get the best from your spouse and affair; you need this ground rules: 1.
Don't look that she/he is imperfect for you.
2.
Know the imperfectness is gotten from the love towards you as I describe in the above paragraph.
3.
Accept this imperfectness which will lead both of you into real romance.
4.
Don't look outside your spouse but inside.
I mean don't allow other affairs or the opposite sex to steal you.
5.
You should know you have succeeded in having a formidable affair.
No doubts.