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Sharing your list plan is not recommended, as others may discourage you.secret image by Pavel Vlasov from Fotolia.com
Write three columns on a piece of paper. Title one column "Things I Once Enjoyed Doing and Would Like to Do Again." In the second column, "Things I Already Enjoy Doing." In the third column, write "Things I No Longer Want to Do." Take this list seriously. Turn off your cell phone while you write it. Make a cup of coffee or tea. Think back prior to the marriage and tap into the things that you used to enjoy. This list will be your plan of attack for each day. If you no longer want to go to Barney's for subs because it reminds you of "she who must not be named," don't go there. Period. Stick to the list. - 2
Pets make excellent companions.swimming image by cherie from Fotolia.com
Purchase a financial and situational-appropriate pet. Pets, even goldfish, can help you through the tough moments, even sometimes more than people can. Pets can help those going through a mourning process know that they are needed. If you have always wanted a cat, dog, ferret, talking parakeet or a tarantula but your ex was not into it, now you are free to do as you please. Go ahead, enjoy "your" pet. Pets are positive healers for symptoms of depression. - 3
Most divorce recovery workshops have free babysitting services.at the nursery image by Eric Issel??e from Fotolia.com
Attend Divorce Recovery Workshops. Many churches and counseling centers hold Divorce Recovery Workshops for free or for a minimal charge. Sharing the experience of divorce with others who have recently experienced the same thing can give you comfort and, at the same time, help you gain new friends. Getting advice from a counselor or pastor on how to go through the recovery process in a group setting can be beneficial to you as you begin to heal. Call local churches in your area to see if there is a workshop scheduled at a church near you. You can also sign up online at the website Divorce Recovery Workshop. - 4
Laugh often.Laughter image by Stepanov from Fotolia.com
Laugh a lot. Watch television shows or movies that you find funny, read humorous books or color with your children. Avoid serious or sad movies about death, marriage failures or things that make you cry. Avoid watching your wedding video or old home movies for now. You can always watch them later when you are stronger and more up to seeing things in a new light. If you feel that you just cannot get over the "hump" and find the laughter, talk to your doctor and let her know how you are feeling. Remember, however, that this too will pass.
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