Everyone know that children that have been exposed to much parental conflict often grown up somewhat dysfunctional.
Destructive arguments often follow them into adulthood and can keep them from developing their own healthy relationships.
Aggressive parent usually have aggressive kids and parents that disengage usually have depressed and anxious children.
Below are 9 tips for you to be aware of that can help you limit some of the long-term effects of conflictthat can come about in any marriage.

1. Do not fight in from of your children.
   Any discussion that you feel is getting heated orbe one that the children feel is heated should be conducted in private.
   Children often only see the fight without seeing the making up leaving them only with a sense of discord.
   
2. Limit your emotional pitch: Try to keep your intensity down.
   I know it is very difficult when you are upset about something to maintain an even keel, but the more you keep the pitch down, the less anxious your children will be.
   
3. Do not avoid talking about differences: There is nothing wrong with some conflict as long as you can handle it in a constructive way.
   When children see you handling a fight or even some basic differencesin a constructive manner, they learn how to manage differences in their own lives.
   
4. Fight Fair: It is better to fight constructively in front of the kids than destructively behind closed doors.
   
5. Never bring children into the middle of the fight: This is probably one of the most destructive things parents can do when they try to get children to come over to their side in middle of an argument.
   Children need to feel that their parens are one unit even if they are having differences.
   You will talk to many adult children that remember with great revulsion of how their parents tried to rope them into siding with them against the other parent.
   
6. Reassureyour children after they have seen you fight: Let them know that you still love each other.
   
7. Do not confide in your children about your marital problems: This will make your child feel extremely insecure.
   Get a good marriage counselor if you need to talk to someone.
   
8. Acknowledge in front of children that the fight is over: If you fought in front of them then let them see that you've made up as well.
   
9. Balance anger with love and humor: If all children see is anger between you and your spouse without seeing any love or humor, then that's all they will remember about love and marriage and will be very leery of every getting married themselves.
   

If you are conscious of conflict and when it arises and work hard at your marriage,keep in mind how effected children are by how you act toward each other, you can have an amazing, fulfilling marriage and secure, happy children.