• Take certain steps to reconcile with your ex-spouse.Married hands image by Przemyslaw Malkowski from Fotolia.com
  
  Divorce is difficult for all parties involved but it does not have to be permanent. Sometimes a couple decides to reconcile and give the marriage another chance. For a reconciliation to occur, several factors must take place. Reconciliation after a divorce does not happen overnight. Both parties should be willing participants and be dedicated to fixing what was broken.
  
  

Keep in Contact

• Reconnect with your ex with a simple phone call or e-mail.cell phone image by Mat Hayward from Fotolia.com
  
  This does not mean that you have to spend hours on the phone or several hours out of your day e-mailing each another. This means that there should be some contact between both parties. This could be a simple, cordial e-mail to ask how his day is going or a quick phone call to her job to tell her some good news. Show interest in what is important to him. Once the communication begins, consider asking him out for a cup of coffee or to that little bistro where the two of you used to have lunch. The idea is to keep communication light-hearted, as you did when you first met.
  
  

Discuss Marital Issues

• Discussing marital issues may bring up angry feelings.strong angry man image by MAXFX from Fotolia.com
  
  This happens after you have established a reconnection. The best time for this type of discussion comes when you both feel ready to take the casual communication to the next level and are perhaps thinking about making a commitment to each another. Discussing the reasons for the divorce may bring up old feelings, so stay calm. When he is speaking, listen before interjecting. Do not be accusatory; this will break down the efforts. Instead, recognize that both parties are at fault and try to see the other point of view. Counseling may be a helpful option during this phase.
  
  

Proceed With Caution

• Never rush back into a relationship with your ex.caution tape image by david brown from Fotolia.com
  
  After getting to know each other again you may feel tempted to fast-forward to where you left off before the divorce. Reconnection turns to dating, which leads to commitment and then a possible proposal of marriage. Before you know it, you're reliving the circumstances that led to your divorce. Take your time and recognize the obstacles that caused the break-up. Although this is a new beginning for both of you, it comes attached with the same baggage. It may seem easy to ignore the past and look toward the future, but doing so may have this second chance suffer the same fate as the first.