Men and women are human magnets. Just as a steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond to our thoughts and ideals. -Orison Swett Marden

Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you cant find your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? If you do, ask yourself this: Why havent you found him yet? And, while youre flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this

The Universal Law of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet attracts iron ore because thats what its made up of. People attract other people who are made up of the same stuff, like hopes, desires, fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.

So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just like a magnet? The things you wantlike money, power, and confidence? Even the things you dont wantdebt, conflict, or poor self image? How about lovedo you think you can use this law to attract your one true love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Lets explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your girlfriends about men, dating, and love.

When youre chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things like Im never going to find my Mr. Right or There must be something wrong with me, or I hate dating, or My one true love must not exist, or I dont believe in soulmates.? If you do, do you think such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection with why you havent found your true love yet? Or, do you think theyre totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and youll live happily ever after? If you think the latter, its time for a reality check!

Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didnt think so. So why should a man be attracted to you if this is the man magnet youre casting out into the world?

Skill skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still want to buck the law of attraction? Dont worry; youre absolutely right: A man *will* appear. Hell likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit your self-doubt, and if he doesnt make your life miserable right away, hell at least keep you from finding somebody betterfor a long time to come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasnt changed, the next man youll attract isnt going to be Mr. Wrong, hes going to be Mr. Really Wrong!

You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The only problem is that youre asking the universe to send you the *opposite* of what you truly want!

Now, youre in a real pickle because youve got what you asked for, but its not what you want. When you state I dont want this or that and I dont need such and such, its exactly what you attract. Then you find yourself wondering why you just cant get a break, why everybody else is falling in love but me, and youre left to wallow in the idea that youre going to grow old alone. If this is how you feel, youre not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) dont know how to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they attract.

But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize it doesnt care one way or the other if youre happy or sad, with Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and without any sentiment of I sure hope she finds her dream man this time! If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who changes them.

Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr. Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.

You might be asking yourself, Gee, this all sounds good, but how the heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end relationships, and deadbeat guys? or Hey, I dont even know where to begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get started? Im glad you asked!

You can start making the universal law of attraction work in your favor by answering seven super simple questions:

1. Define the type of relationship you want

I want to meet the man of my dreams, isnt going to cut it. Be specific (e.g., I want to find a husband who is passionate about his career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park. or I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly black hair and brown eyes. or I would love to go on a romantic date with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh.).

2. How does this man treat you?

(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like a princess, rubs my feet after a long day)

3. How does it feel when you are with him?

(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is like music to my ears when I hear his laughter)

4. What does he look like?

(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes, black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair skinned, freckles))

5. What does he do for fun?

(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain climbing, reading, swimming, travel)

6. Where will you meet this man?

(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club)

7. How will you know youve found him?

(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance)

When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it. So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel himeven taste him!

Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with knowing your desire is already fulfilledand it really isthe universal law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you almost immediately.

Dont believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isnt it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within andsnapstart attracting your perfect man now?