Are you just bidding your time, hoping he'll magically fall in love with you? Have you tried a few little things in the past, but they didn't really work? Left in his hands, do you feel your relationship isn't moving at all? It can be hard sometimes knowing whether we should sit back and wait, or take action and attempt to move things forward.
The answer actually lies somewhere in the middle.
In the past, women didn't really have to do much to get a man's attention.
It was all left to him.
He pursued, impressed and conquered her.
She was little more than a passive pawn in the game.
Today women are far from passive.
They take charge and want to have a part in the whole courting process.
That's great, but there are some women who take this too far by becoming the aggressive and sometimes relentless pursuer of men.
This new assertiveness can be a turn off to many men.
He's left feeling powerless and his instinct to win you over is crushed.
Be assertive, but not to the point of extinguishing his desire to conquer you.
Also don't underestimate the power of looking your best.
Many modern women want to maintain that their looks shouldn't be important.
"He should like me for my mind," they say.
Yes, he should, but his visual sense is still very alive and seeking what he finds appealing.
Today's woman also has a very set agenda for her future and each date is meant to lead somewhere.
This can be an exhausting amount of pressure for a guy.
He's going out hoping to have a good time with a woman he finds interesting, and he's confronted by someone who has the next fifty years plotted out for him.
Is it any wonder he's reluctant to move forward? Put aside your agenda and take it literally one date at a time.
Each date should be a chance of discovery for both of you and this is an important part of the romantic process.
It's not all about wine and roses.
It's about making that connection with him.
And that connection can't be faked or forced.
It comes on its own.
But you can entice it by ensuring that every time you see him, you make him feel he's met the greatest woman in the world.
Time with you is fun and easy and he feels comfortable telling you just about anything.
To keep that door of easy conversation open, make sure you don't fall into the bad habit many modern women have adopted.
That is to compete with the guy on every level.
Allow him his pride at his career, promotion or any other accomplishment and don't feel you have to proclaim your greater success.
Yes, be proud of what you've done as well, just don't make a contest of it.
Men today have remarked on this trend of emasculating women; women who feel the need to make themselves feel bigger, stronger and more important by constantly reminding the guy that he's not all that.
His career is not as impressive, his salary not as important and his activities dull and mundane.
This is supposedly the man you want to spend your life with.
Don't put him down to make yourself feel better.
Get him to love you by really loving the man he is.