If you are looking for the keys to marriage, I'm afraid there is not an easy answer.
Why do you suppose that is? Well it is because each and every one of us are different.
I may like pepperoni pizza while you like sausage! Because we are all different, it is difficult to say what will work for everyone.
That being said though, there are some general keys to marriage that I personally try and implement in my marriage.
Here is a quick list of what I do - 1.
Communicate, communicate, communicate! So many times you hear of how married couples just do not communicate with each other.
Now their reasons may vary, but the end result is the same.
Without an open line of communication, that invisible wall starts to grow.
Before you know it, you and your spouse cannot even talk about what happened today at work! Communication not only involves the two of you sharing, but it also creates a sense of trust.
It is this trust that grows the love between you and your spouse.
Without communication, there is no trust.
Without trust, there is no love.
A marriage without love will typically end in divorce.
2.
Be yourself with your spouse! Now this may sound like a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many couples that I know are completely different when their spouse is not around.
I am not talking men that may curse when their wives are not around or women who bad-mouth their husbands when they are not around.
What I am talking about is a complete change in that person's personality.
My wife never lets me forget why she married me - because I make her laugh.
That is is me and that is how I am with my wife.
One of the keys to marriage is remaining true to yourself as well as your spouse.
Leave the split personalities with the single-folks.
There is no place for this in a marriage! 3.
Always remind yourself why you married your spouse! When was the last time you sat back and asked yourself that question? "Why did I want to marry my spouse?" There was a time about two years ago where my wife and I were not doing too well.
We were fighting quite a bit and you really could not feel "the love" in the house.
It was right after we had our second child and the stress was through the roof.
It went on like this for about six months.
Not only was this unhealthy for us, but it was also unhealthy for our children.
During one of our spats, my wife asked me, "...
then why did you marry me"? Wow, that was a great question.
The funny thing though, the answers I had just rolled off my tongue! I knew why I married her, I just did not REMEMBER! After that conversation, we both made an effort to keep in mind why we love each other and why we will never split up! My keys to marriage consist of honesty and love - nothing less.
If you love someone, why would you not do everything in your power to keep that love alive? Love and marriage take work.
Just because you love someone does not mean that you are going to last.
This is why it is important that YOU find your keys to marriage.
Learn what works and keep at it!
Why do you suppose that is? Well it is because each and every one of us are different.
I may like pepperoni pizza while you like sausage! Because we are all different, it is difficult to say what will work for everyone.
That being said though, there are some general keys to marriage that I personally try and implement in my marriage.
Here is a quick list of what I do - 1.
Communicate, communicate, communicate! So many times you hear of how married couples just do not communicate with each other.
Now their reasons may vary, but the end result is the same.
Without an open line of communication, that invisible wall starts to grow.
Before you know it, you and your spouse cannot even talk about what happened today at work! Communication not only involves the two of you sharing, but it also creates a sense of trust.
It is this trust that grows the love between you and your spouse.
Without communication, there is no trust.
Without trust, there is no love.
A marriage without love will typically end in divorce.
2.
Be yourself with your spouse! Now this may sound like a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many couples that I know are completely different when their spouse is not around.
I am not talking men that may curse when their wives are not around or women who bad-mouth their husbands when they are not around.
What I am talking about is a complete change in that person's personality.
My wife never lets me forget why she married me - because I make her laugh.
That is is me and that is how I am with my wife.
One of the keys to marriage is remaining true to yourself as well as your spouse.
Leave the split personalities with the single-folks.
There is no place for this in a marriage! 3.
Always remind yourself why you married your spouse! When was the last time you sat back and asked yourself that question? "Why did I want to marry my spouse?" There was a time about two years ago where my wife and I were not doing too well.
We were fighting quite a bit and you really could not feel "the love" in the house.
It was right after we had our second child and the stress was through the roof.
It went on like this for about six months.
Not only was this unhealthy for us, but it was also unhealthy for our children.
During one of our spats, my wife asked me, "...
then why did you marry me"? Wow, that was a great question.
The funny thing though, the answers I had just rolled off my tongue! I knew why I married her, I just did not REMEMBER! After that conversation, we both made an effort to keep in mind why we love each other and why we will never split up! My keys to marriage consist of honesty and love - nothing less.
If you love someone, why would you not do everything in your power to keep that love alive? Love and marriage take work.
Just because you love someone does not mean that you are going to last.
This is why it is important that YOU find your keys to marriage.
Learn what works and keep at it!