Do you resent the fact that your Ex is dating and you are not?Does it look like he is moving on and you are standing still?Many single women are bitter about their Ex.
When one person leaves another, it may feel like someone won and someone lost.
You may feel that no matter how hard you tried, you lost your mate, your family, and a huge part of your identity.
But if you could shift the concept of loss to a more positive attitude, your life might begin to look better.
Thinking about divorce as a failure leads you to feeling more loss.
If you have been divorced for over a year, focus on creating a social life.
Finding a dating life which will lead to meeting the person of your dreams waits for you.
Here are some thoughts that may bring you to a new awareness.
They may even help you forget about what the Ex is doing.
1.
Whenever we resent ANYONE, we need to look at our own life and see what we have not given ourselves.
If you are resenting his dating life, it just means you need to find a better social life for yourself.
Once you do, you won't even care about what the Ex is doing or thinking.
2.
Take care of yourself.
Harboring resentment can cause you to neglect yourself.
You probably have been taking good care of everyone but you.
Research has shown that, often, divorced people take care of themselves the least.
Keep your doctor's appointments, EXERCISE, rest, and eat smart.
3.
Check your finances.
Do you have a cushion under you?Look to see what you can do now to make your financial life better.
Is it time to "right-size" your home, possessions, or spaces?Get yourself in balance.
Balance gives you energy and energy attracts others.
4.
What have you been tolerating? Resentment and negativity can cause you to avoid the clutter building up around you.
Negative people, clutter, and too much to do can drain you.
Whatever you have been putting up with or trying to ignore, clean it up and let go of it.
You will feel tremendous relief when you do.
5.
Do what you love.
Give resentment and bitterness a holiday.
You can't be unhappy when you are doing something you love.
This will bring a big "Oh!" to your day.
Find a job, hobby, or activity that makes you want to spring from the sofa, turn off the TV, and lose yourself in it.
It should be so delicious you will wonder how you ever lived without doing it.
This kind of energy makes you attractive.
6.
Get ready to socialize.
Unhappy, resentful people do not look their best.
Pull your wardrobe, style, makeup, hair, and schedule together.
Get out often and be friendly.
Tell people to fix you up with other singles.
Check out the Internet for dating, but always use caution.
You don't need to keep score with the Ex anymore.
That game is over.
This is your NEW game plan.
It is written with you in mind to forget about the Ex and bring you the life you want and you can have.
When one person leaves another, it may feel like someone won and someone lost.
You may feel that no matter how hard you tried, you lost your mate, your family, and a huge part of your identity.
But if you could shift the concept of loss to a more positive attitude, your life might begin to look better.
Thinking about divorce as a failure leads you to feeling more loss.
If you have been divorced for over a year, focus on creating a social life.
Finding a dating life which will lead to meeting the person of your dreams waits for you.
Here are some thoughts that may bring you to a new awareness.
They may even help you forget about what the Ex is doing.
1.
Whenever we resent ANYONE, we need to look at our own life and see what we have not given ourselves.
If you are resenting his dating life, it just means you need to find a better social life for yourself.
Once you do, you won't even care about what the Ex is doing or thinking.
2.
Take care of yourself.
Harboring resentment can cause you to neglect yourself.
You probably have been taking good care of everyone but you.
Research has shown that, often, divorced people take care of themselves the least.
Keep your doctor's appointments, EXERCISE, rest, and eat smart.
3.
Check your finances.
Do you have a cushion under you?Look to see what you can do now to make your financial life better.
Is it time to "right-size" your home, possessions, or spaces?Get yourself in balance.
Balance gives you energy and energy attracts others.
4.
What have you been tolerating? Resentment and negativity can cause you to avoid the clutter building up around you.
Negative people, clutter, and too much to do can drain you.
Whatever you have been putting up with or trying to ignore, clean it up and let go of it.
You will feel tremendous relief when you do.
5.
Do what you love.
Give resentment and bitterness a holiday.
You can't be unhappy when you are doing something you love.
This will bring a big "Oh!" to your day.
Find a job, hobby, or activity that makes you want to spring from the sofa, turn off the TV, and lose yourself in it.
It should be so delicious you will wonder how you ever lived without doing it.
This kind of energy makes you attractive.
6.
Get ready to socialize.
Unhappy, resentful people do not look their best.
Pull your wardrobe, style, makeup, hair, and schedule together.
Get out often and be friendly.
Tell people to fix you up with other singles.
Check out the Internet for dating, but always use caution.
You don't need to keep score with the Ex anymore.
That game is over.
This is your NEW game plan.
It is written with you in mind to forget about the Ex and bring you the life you want and you can have.