Marriage Advice - Watch Out For These Seven Signs of a Troubled Marriage
For the past several years, it has been observed that there has been a decline in divorce rates.
That should be some cause for a celebration, but the odd thing about it is this change in statistics does not really mean that more marriages are working better than before.
Most researches indicate that the reason why divorce rates are down is because of the economic crisis.
It appears that it is cheaper to stay in an unhappy marriage than pay the costs of alimony and child support.
Not exactly good news, really.
Couples may even remain in an unhappy marriage for one reason or another.
Often it is because they would not want their children to suffer the consequences of having divorced parents.
They may also be too proud to accept that the marriage has failed.
However, being in a marriage that has lost its appeal to both husband and wife can only lead to disaster.
It rarely creates a loving environment for the children, because what they often see are two people who often get on each other's nerves, two people who are unhappy with each other.
The couple can either continue in an unhappy state of togetherness, or head for a divorce.
Of course, the better option really is to work on the marriage and find ways to revive the love and passion that once was there.
It is too bad that sometimes couples wait till the very last minute to do something about their troubled marriage.
Love and respect seldom disappear in a day.
It takes time for a marriage to lose its luster and there are usually signs that can tell the couple that their marriage is in trouble.
If the couple can spot these signs early enough, they can find solutions to their problems, before the issues become unmanageable.
Here are just a few of the most common signs of a troubled marriage: 1.
Each may start making plans for the future without consulting the other person.
There is too much disagreement when it comes to future plans, no one seems ready to make a compromise that can lead to a mutual agreement on perhaps things like where to spend the summer holiday, where to put their life savings on, where to buy a house.
2.
Partners no longer find excitement in each other's company.
It may seem more like a task than a privilege to share time with each other.
3.
One seems to be picking on the other's grooming habits or the way one does or does not do any chores around the house.
Things that are too trivial are sometimes blown out of proportion and arguments frequently happen.
4.
There are too many "alone" times apart from each other.
The wife may feel more relaxed whenever her husband is not around.
The husband finds spending time with his drinking buddies a better alternative than spending a quiet evening with his wife.
5.
The husband rarely complements the wife on the way she looks or the way she takes care of him and the children.
The wife seldom appreciates the husband's generosity or the husband's thoughtfulness.
Instead, the couple may find themselves hurling criticisms against each other more often than before.
6.
There are always discussions about one's spending habits.
Arguments about money is a frequent occurrence.
7.
There are less and less time for sexual intimacy.
Lovemaking becomes more of a form of sexual release, not a means to express love and affection to one another.
If you see any of these signs frequently in your marriage, have a heart to heart talk with your spouse and express your fears that you may be heading for a divorce, unless something is done to improve the current state of your relationship.
Talking to a marriage counselor can help you both to regain the love and intimacy that somehow got lost within the everyday routine.
Do not be embarrassed to ask the help of a professional, rather than let the damage escalate up to a point when nothing can be done anymore to save the relationship.
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That should be some cause for a celebration, but the odd thing about it is this change in statistics does not really mean that more marriages are working better than before.
Most researches indicate that the reason why divorce rates are down is because of the economic crisis.
It appears that it is cheaper to stay in an unhappy marriage than pay the costs of alimony and child support.
Not exactly good news, really.
Couples may even remain in an unhappy marriage for one reason or another.
Often it is because they would not want their children to suffer the consequences of having divorced parents.
They may also be too proud to accept that the marriage has failed.
However, being in a marriage that has lost its appeal to both husband and wife can only lead to disaster.
It rarely creates a loving environment for the children, because what they often see are two people who often get on each other's nerves, two people who are unhappy with each other.
The couple can either continue in an unhappy state of togetherness, or head for a divorce.
Of course, the better option really is to work on the marriage and find ways to revive the love and passion that once was there.
It is too bad that sometimes couples wait till the very last minute to do something about their troubled marriage.
Love and respect seldom disappear in a day.
It takes time for a marriage to lose its luster and there are usually signs that can tell the couple that their marriage is in trouble.
If the couple can spot these signs early enough, they can find solutions to their problems, before the issues become unmanageable.
Here are just a few of the most common signs of a troubled marriage: 1.
Each may start making plans for the future without consulting the other person.
There is too much disagreement when it comes to future plans, no one seems ready to make a compromise that can lead to a mutual agreement on perhaps things like where to spend the summer holiday, where to put their life savings on, where to buy a house.
2.
Partners no longer find excitement in each other's company.
It may seem more like a task than a privilege to share time with each other.
3.
One seems to be picking on the other's grooming habits or the way one does or does not do any chores around the house.
Things that are too trivial are sometimes blown out of proportion and arguments frequently happen.
4.
There are too many "alone" times apart from each other.
The wife may feel more relaxed whenever her husband is not around.
The husband finds spending time with his drinking buddies a better alternative than spending a quiet evening with his wife.
5.
The husband rarely complements the wife on the way she looks or the way she takes care of him and the children.
The wife seldom appreciates the husband's generosity or the husband's thoughtfulness.
Instead, the couple may find themselves hurling criticisms against each other more often than before.
6.
There are always discussions about one's spending habits.
Arguments about money is a frequent occurrence.
7.
There are less and less time for sexual intimacy.
Lovemaking becomes more of a form of sexual release, not a means to express love and affection to one another.
If you see any of these signs frequently in your marriage, have a heart to heart talk with your spouse and express your fears that you may be heading for a divorce, unless something is done to improve the current state of your relationship.
Talking to a marriage counselor can help you both to regain the love and intimacy that somehow got lost within the everyday routine.
Do not be embarrassed to ask the help of a professional, rather than let the damage escalate up to a point when nothing can be done anymore to save the relationship.
For More Information on this and related subjects & your copy of the "Nice Guy's Guide to Finding the Ideal Woman" go to: http://www.
WeNeedMoreLove.
com