Being faced with a divorce may be one of the most painful experiences a person can ever go through.
When it happened to me I thought life as I had known it was over.
I was desperate for a way to keep the divorce from happening! Are you in a similar situation right now? You can avoid a divorce and the good news is that you can do it even without your spouse's participation! I'm not a doctor and I am not a marriage counselor.
But I got my butt kicked around pretty good and discovered all kinds of ways NOT to save a marriage! In the process I stumbled almost by accident on the secret to avoiding a divorce when faced with one.
Maybe secret is too strong a word but it was the complete opposite of what I had been doing, so it was definitely a revelation to me! I discovered that by clinging to my wife and trying to desperately hang on to my marriage, I was actually causing her to pull away more! Does this sound familiar? Maybe you have tried begging and pleading with your spouse, made promise after promise to change, grown angry and frustrated etc.
only to feel like you made the problem even worse.
These are very common responses when you love someone and don't want to lose them.
But the result will be the complete opposite of what you intended! So what do you do? First of all, you will need to change the emotional state that you are currently in to a more resourceful emotional state.
Second, you will need to acknowledge that your efforts up to this point have failed and that you need a proven technique.
Third, you must commit 100% of yourself to saving this marriage, regardless of your spouse.
And finally, you must be willing to take action! The best plan in the world will do you no good if you don't apply it.
After applying these things in my own marriage, I began to notice a change in myself, a change in my wife and a change in our marriage.
It was nothing short of miraculous when considering she had been asking for a divorce.