Marriage communication skills are essential for a healthy marriage.
One of the most common complaints in struggling relationships is the difficulty a couple has with communication.
There is a simple secret that is commonly overlooked.
When couples discuss issues or concerns their focus is typically on the conflict or even more common is focusing on something disguised as the conflict.
The disguised conflict often masks an underlying concern that hasn't even been addressed.
One or both partners may not even know what the real issue is yet.
Regularly the couple spirals downward and expends energy chasing a conflict that they have in fact just created for the sake of discussion.
While this contrived conflict may carry some merit it certainly doesn't warrant the attention it is getting.
The secret to marriage communication skills is that you may not be as far apart as it may seem.
Sometimes when two people get caught up in conflict they lose sight of the fact that they are both seeking the same thing.
A joyful, peaceful and loving marriage is the underlying goal.
When a couple actively takes a step back from their conflict, takes a collective deep breath and considers what they agree on they will begin to shift the focus.
The more they shift the focus to the positive aspects of the relationship and moving forward the less likely they will remain anchored to their past.
It can be difficult at first to make this shift and you may need some help moving in that direction.
It has taken both of your efforts to get here.
One person taking the initiative to make positive changes can make the difference in a marriage.
With the proper assistance you will be on your way to improving your marriage communication skills.