How can you stop divorce? Most people feel they are on a runaway train and it will not stop until it crashes.
Are there people who have actually stopped a divorce and turned things around? Happily it is true to say, from many testimonies that it does happen.
Maybe not as often as the community and families would want but it does happen and therefore there is hope for all those on the verge of divorce but inwardly wish they could stop divorce from happening.
One thing to do is a hard one to swallow because it goes against the grain.
Even if you are 90 percent not at fault you will need to assume an attitude of not blaming or accusing.
More than that you may have to make the effort in spite of your partner who me be totally uncooperative.
If you have already separated and live apart then a big no no is to avoid trying to make repairs by constantly emailing or phoning or trailing or whatever action that keeps you daily or hourly trying to get the partner back to negotiate or even have a talk.
You have to be very still at this time don't enter into constant pleading and become like a stalker because this will have only one result - you will frighten the other party and scare them off and create an even greater distance between you Giving the ex or the absent partner or the partner still living in the home with you some space is so important.
In that space-time you can be courteous and respectful and thoughtful but not intrusive.
Sometimes a thoughtful gift passed without comment and without response even if it's greeted with disbelief about its genuineness.
If you have children then on no account begin to speak against your partner or spouse to gain their support.
It's vital that you keep the children out of the arena of divorce issues and remind them only to respect the partner and listen to them.
This of course is difficult if the spouse or partner is working against you through the children nevertheless don't get caught into using children in any way this is between you and your partner.
Well there are many other things to do but giving space and no blame is a great start and you will be a better person because of the positive attitude you take and in time it will influence your spouse for the better.
Are there people who have actually stopped a divorce and turned things around? Happily it is true to say, from many testimonies that it does happen.
Maybe not as often as the community and families would want but it does happen and therefore there is hope for all those on the verge of divorce but inwardly wish they could stop divorce from happening.
One thing to do is a hard one to swallow because it goes against the grain.
Even if you are 90 percent not at fault you will need to assume an attitude of not blaming or accusing.
More than that you may have to make the effort in spite of your partner who me be totally uncooperative.
If you have already separated and live apart then a big no no is to avoid trying to make repairs by constantly emailing or phoning or trailing or whatever action that keeps you daily or hourly trying to get the partner back to negotiate or even have a talk.
You have to be very still at this time don't enter into constant pleading and become like a stalker because this will have only one result - you will frighten the other party and scare them off and create an even greater distance between you Giving the ex or the absent partner or the partner still living in the home with you some space is so important.
In that space-time you can be courteous and respectful and thoughtful but not intrusive.
Sometimes a thoughtful gift passed without comment and without response even if it's greeted with disbelief about its genuineness.
If you have children then on no account begin to speak against your partner or spouse to gain their support.
It's vital that you keep the children out of the arena of divorce issues and remind them only to respect the partner and listen to them.
This of course is difficult if the spouse or partner is working against you through the children nevertheless don't get caught into using children in any way this is between you and your partner.
Well there are many other things to do but giving space and no blame is a great start and you will be a better person because of the positive attitude you take and in time it will influence your spouse for the better.