Why we split up isn't important but how we got back together and I've put together 3 of the strategies I used.
When I say strategies, I don't mean in an underhand way.
I mean ways of behaving and thinking that will cause the natural attraction between you and your ex to reaffirm itself and for the two of you to come back together through the natural law of attraction.
So lets get started on those three strategies you can use to get your ex back.
1.
Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder This was by far my hardest lesson to learn and its almost impossible but you have to do it if you want to get back with your ex.
The more you pester them, ring them, text them and email the more you'll push them away.
It doesn't matter how much you want it to change you have to create a vacuum in her life where you used to be.
This will cause the age old effect of 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' to kick in.
Its not just a saying its been confirmed in psychological studies that when two people who've been close part it causes their feelings for each other to grow.
You might be wondering why they don't come running back to you then? Well that's because you're on the end of the phone all the time pestering them.
There's no absence or space for that fondness to grow.
Eventually it gets to such a level that whatever caused the split: The anger, pain and upset begins to fade and they start to consider forgiveness.
2.
Be Open And Honest The more open and honest you are the better off you'll be.
This isn't a time to pull punches and even truths that hurt must be said.
3.
Leave The Past Behind The past is the past no matter what happens.
During the healing process you can't keep jumping back to past joys, mistakes, events, anything! The more you live in the past the less you live in the here and now.
The less you can be open to your ex when the time arises.
Get out of your own mind and try to live in the moment.
That doesn't mean ignore your pain; it means live your life now.
You'll find the world is a better place and you'll gravitate towards each other naturally.
Its almost magic how it works! There's other ways and means of getting back together with your ex but I can't fit it all here.
When I say strategies, I don't mean in an underhand way.
I mean ways of behaving and thinking that will cause the natural attraction between you and your ex to reaffirm itself and for the two of you to come back together through the natural law of attraction.
So lets get started on those three strategies you can use to get your ex back.
1.
Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder This was by far my hardest lesson to learn and its almost impossible but you have to do it if you want to get back with your ex.
The more you pester them, ring them, text them and email the more you'll push them away.
It doesn't matter how much you want it to change you have to create a vacuum in her life where you used to be.
This will cause the age old effect of 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' to kick in.
Its not just a saying its been confirmed in psychological studies that when two people who've been close part it causes their feelings for each other to grow.
You might be wondering why they don't come running back to you then? Well that's because you're on the end of the phone all the time pestering them.
There's no absence or space for that fondness to grow.
Eventually it gets to such a level that whatever caused the split: The anger, pain and upset begins to fade and they start to consider forgiveness.
2.
Be Open And Honest The more open and honest you are the better off you'll be.
This isn't a time to pull punches and even truths that hurt must be said.
3.
Leave The Past Behind The past is the past no matter what happens.
During the healing process you can't keep jumping back to past joys, mistakes, events, anything! The more you live in the past the less you live in the here and now.
The less you can be open to your ex when the time arises.
Get out of your own mind and try to live in the moment.
That doesn't mean ignore your pain; it means live your life now.
You'll find the world is a better place and you'll gravitate towards each other naturally.
Its almost magic how it works! There's other ways and means of getting back together with your ex but I can't fit it all here.