Millions of people just like you decide to end their marriages every day. Current statistics show that 50% or better of all marriages will end and this is independent of religious conviction. Whilst the statistics are depressing, you must not ever believe that merely since you're having issues in your marriage, you must get divorced. This is something that should be carefully weighed and considered before pursuing.
From as soon as kids are really small, they get bombarded with fairy tales that always end happily ever after. Unfortunately, there are no fairy godmothers in this world that can wave a wand and bring about a happy ending by magic. One of the first things you should realize is that it's only natural to have conflicts and problems in your marriage from time to time. The best couples can crack when you factor in two flawed human beings, being under the same roof for years, adding financial burdens, children, and in-laws. Rather than running at the first sign of trouble, you and your spouse should try your best to work things out.
For many years, individuals have claimed that everything becomes different when they marry, and on a few levels, this is correct. You're merging your being with someonelse, so naturally things will change. The big problem with marriage is the person you marry won't be any different.
Sometimes it's really true that a leopard rarely changes its spots. For example, if you marry someone who is always up at the crack of dawn, goes to bed early each night and is extremely career-driven, you probably should not expect them to stay up late to gaze at the stars and then take a sick day simply to steal a few precious hours with you. None of this is in their nature and also when you might be thinking of course if you were expecting your new spouse to stop drinking, smoking, playing video games all the time or some other vice you are expecting a guy other than the one you married.
The greatest sin against a spouse and family is that of adultery. Trust is broken at the deepest level and the wound suffered by the other spouse runs incredibly deep. Of all the painful life experiences this is the one that people list as the most devastating, even compared to abuse.
A mate cheating on you is usually grounds for a break up because learning to trust that person again is too hard to deal with. It's possible that divorce is the only option left. With that being said, it does not have to be your only option. It is possible to restore the relationship but the road is long and both parties must be committed.
Before seeking a divorce, give yourself time to reevaluate the situation and make sure you have exhausted all other alternatives to resolve the dispute. When there are issues with physical attacks in a relationship there should be a separation until both people can obtain some assistance, but leaving the marriage is a decision only you can make.
From as soon as kids are really small, they get bombarded with fairy tales that always end happily ever after. Unfortunately, there are no fairy godmothers in this world that can wave a wand and bring about a happy ending by magic. One of the first things you should realize is that it's only natural to have conflicts and problems in your marriage from time to time. The best couples can crack when you factor in two flawed human beings, being under the same roof for years, adding financial burdens, children, and in-laws. Rather than running at the first sign of trouble, you and your spouse should try your best to work things out.
For many years, individuals have claimed that everything becomes different when they marry, and on a few levels, this is correct. You're merging your being with someonelse, so naturally things will change. The big problem with marriage is the person you marry won't be any different.
Sometimes it's really true that a leopard rarely changes its spots. For example, if you marry someone who is always up at the crack of dawn, goes to bed early each night and is extremely career-driven, you probably should not expect them to stay up late to gaze at the stars and then take a sick day simply to steal a few precious hours with you. None of this is in their nature and also when you might be thinking of course if you were expecting your new spouse to stop drinking, smoking, playing video games all the time or some other vice you are expecting a guy other than the one you married.
The greatest sin against a spouse and family is that of adultery. Trust is broken at the deepest level and the wound suffered by the other spouse runs incredibly deep. Of all the painful life experiences this is the one that people list as the most devastating, even compared to abuse.
A mate cheating on you is usually grounds for a break up because learning to trust that person again is too hard to deal with. It's possible that divorce is the only option left. With that being said, it does not have to be your only option. It is possible to restore the relationship but the road is long and both parties must be committed.
Before seeking a divorce, give yourself time to reevaluate the situation and make sure you have exhausted all other alternatives to resolve the dispute. When there are issues with physical attacks in a relationship there should be a separation until both people can obtain some assistance, but leaving the marriage is a decision only you can make.